I’ve been married for 10 years now and my wife moved out recently wanting a divorce. We’re both 46 years old with no kids. We’ve both have worked the entire marriage. I make around 70k a year with overtime. My wife makes 35k a year. So I was served the summons at my job. She requested that I buy her out of our house that we own, half of my 401k and $700 a month in alimony. I agree with buying her out on the house. She helped with paying the mortgage. I don’t agree with giving half of my 401k to her because she has her own. Also I don’t agree with $700 a month in alimony unlimited term unless she gets remarried. I made a deposit for a lawyer and she doesn’t have one which is okay I guess. We were married in Oklahoma. She recently messaged me. She said that she didn’t want to have to get an attorney. Asking if we could come to an agreement. She wants me to buy her out on the house now. She doesn’t want my 401k now. But she now is willing to take $500 a month in alimony for a year. My question is should I try and negotiate alimony with her or just hold my ground in the court? which could get ugly