My wife left me and the kids, before you say that's a blessing hold up. I never seen it coming, she use to be a great mother, and now she barely sees them. I can't help but still love her, I've tried everything I know to try. I even drug her to a very pricey marriage intensive through hope restored, but it didn't work. I have a lawyer, but I don't want a divorce, I love her and I don't believe in divorce, but I was thinking about letting her file. She can't afford a lawyer, she plans on using a free legal aid the county offers, I will contest it if she files and I'll make the terms so ridiculous that she will contest it if I file, but she may sign anything at this point. It's been 9 weeks, I lost my job over this, I'm holding the fort down with two littles (4 and almost 2) they miss their mommy as much as I do. I'm just lost, and want some real advice, not feminist or simps bashing me. Sure I have my problems, but she left all three of of us to live with a friend and her husband to play house with their little kid.