Having fun is hard

Anxious-One-2365 · 2026-05-05T12:14:05+00:00

My man, 21 days! Your new life will get take some time getting used to. Eating alone and an empty household will take some time. But you are getting out and doing things. Guitar show sounds cool, seeing Sting will be awesome. Keep doing stuff like that. Get out of the house and start doing things again that you enjoy.

Reach out to some close contacts and try and plan some things as well. Meet new friends. Try new adventures and hobbies. You have the time now to start anew.

This weekend I am going fishing with a friend. Nothing like being surrounded by beauty, solitude and quiet that fishing provides to lift one’s spirit. I know we will catch some steelheads and walleye but heck even if we get nothing, I will still have a great time.

TheDavenessPhD · 2026-05-05T11:41:30+00:00

Dude, you're doing the work. Actions come first. The feelings and the motivation come afterwards. You're doing it, man. 21 days, oh my goodness, I'm so happy for you. I can't wait till I get to say that!

If you hate eating alone, don't. If you want to buy a guitar, buy a guitar. It's your life, man. Make it into whatever you can possibly think of.

dystinct · 2026-05-05T11:35:01+00:00

I actually enjoy eating alone now. I like to people watch mostly and sometimes just sit on my phone with my airpods.

1millionBURNINGsuns · 2026-05-05T03:48:05+00:00

It’s good to go out and be in the world where other people are even if you’re not actively engaging with them. Keep being in the world and living.

Doing this is cathartic. Living like this also trains us and makes us feel worthy and valued again after experiencing the trauma and pain. Whether it’s subconscious or not it feels like what we need - to be in a world of people.

It feels weird for a while because we feel unworthy and unwanted and rejected. We know everyone doesn’t know we’re getting or are divorced but it’s so inside our brains we still feel awkward.

Keep pushing though. Keep going out. It feels weird until it doesn’t. It clicks one day and then when you’re ready you’ll be on some dates or banging some new women. In the world. Keep going. Music. Comedy. Library. Food. Mall. Whatever. Go out. Visit some rando mild friends. Listen to your need for human interaction. Respect these desires.

steak-raspberry · 2026-05-05T02:31:25+00:00

Sting will be awesome!

painfulletdown · 2026-05-05T00:28:19+00:00

alone is a blessing rather than being around a negative individual who belittles you and sleep deprives you. that jerk would even try to guilt me out of going to chinese buffet

Realistic-Fun8384 · 2026-05-05T00:22:37+00:00

I enjoy eating alone but I just stare at my phone the whole time. Showing off my bald spot

Title	Having fun is hard
Author	WarrGo1
Upvotes	12
Comments	7
Date	May 4, 2026 11:39 PM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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