How do you move on?

bobbyb503 · 2018-12-23T19:37:38+00:00

Time.... stay busy, control what things in life you can ( hygiene, diet, fitness, work). Create routine. Don’t be reclusive. Seek counseling. Focus on yourself. Focus on things you have neglected, when you were with her. Be selfish. Don’t look to drugs or alcohol for answers. I’m 8 years in , it gets a little better everyday.

Be good to yourself, your inner voice.

Help others, it’s empowering.

Stay busy, hard to feel sorry for yourself when you have lots going on.

mickey_sd · 2018-12-23T20:30:18+00:00

Agreed - join a gym, decide to eat healthy and stick with it. The wonders it will do for your self esteem in 3 months will be amazing.

Melos_Paladin · 2018-12-24T05:21:13+00:00

I spent my time working on myself finding all my faults and correcting them. Then I worked on loving myself as much as I loved her because I'd have done anything for her so maybe if I love myself just as much I'll be that much better for it. It turned out to be true. I've fallen a few times but I get back up and keep trying because your never out until you don't get back up again. Learn to live for yourself, Learn who you are, live the life you want. I never thought I'd love again, or have a reason to smile again... But thats just not true I found so much more after my divorce. Remember in the end they made the decision they did so they could be happy. Whether that's the result they got doesn't matter. Now be selfish because your allowed to be and be happy.

BawdyBarrister · 2018-12-31T05:17:56+00:00

No. Do not go to their level. Be the better person and you will be rewarded later.

Anger is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.

BawdyBarrister · 2018-12-24T13:00:07+00:00

Body Mind Heart Soul. Better yourself in all of these categories to become 100% the Man you should be. For me it was Soul first and everything followed. Reconnect with God.

Have a listen to this

https://youtu.be/CTGfgIV1w7A

Lilelon · 2018-12-29T05:48:40+00:00

agree. take control of ur life .one day at a time and you see life gets better. good luck to u and hugs

MNCPA · 2018-12-31T15:03:20+00:00

Work on yourself* -> past, present and future.
See above note.

*Eat healthy, find a new/old hobby, stay busy, work, save for attorneys (if needed)

Title	How do you move on?
Author	aviator22
Upvotes	10
Comments	13
Date	December 23, 2018 3:00 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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