I was having a good conversation with a close relative about my divorce that I’m going through. We were talking about the low possibility of STBXW changing her mind and wanting to try and work on the relationship. Suddenly my relative tells my about how good I have it now without the kids or having family responsibilities. I’m thinking WTF, I miss my kids all the time, it pains me to see my old house needing some paint or repairs, and I dread the day my kids tell me that my ex met this great guy and their getting married. I know she was probably trying to make me see the positive of my situation. That’s the problem of people that haven’t gone through a divorce trying to give you advice, they see it from their POV where the kids and responsibilities are a burden. They don’t know it’s when your kids are taken from you and you’re left with an empty apartment that you’ll do anything to get back those “burdens.”