How to Move On

drew_peacpck · 2022-03-27T01:30:34+00:00

Time. Nothing else will change things. Keep working out. Keep doing what you enjoy. Get out of the house daily. Keep track of any alcohol consumption and regulate it. Don't stifle it if you feel like crying. Embrace it. Find counseling, you are not weak for wanting help. Shift gears into self care mode.

1 month per year of the relationship to heal oneself is my thoughts. Any relationship that might start before that may end up as just a rebound. I'm facing the end of a 20 year marriage, I'm giving myself 2 years to heal. If you feel the need to go sport fucking, be up front with your needs and expectations. Find a class to take, basket weaving, cooking, sewing... It doesn't matter what, anything to get yourself off the couch, out of the house and learning something new.

Come back here for support. You are not alone.

ForsakenGround2994 · 2022-03-27T01:37:55+00:00

You are not alone. It will get easier.

Dizzy-Ad512 · 2022-03-27T01:31:11+00:00

It’s joint custody. But due to my work schedule . I can only have them on every other weekends. Cannot drop or pick them from school..

TonLoc1281 · 2022-03-27T01:22:42+00:00

Don’t you get partial custody? If not, how come?

warrior_up · 2022-03-27T19:28:18+00:00

Time. Don’t sit around and feel sorry for yourself alone and fearful- accept your reality and find things to be grateful for everyday, say them out loud every morning. Find a new routine, meet new people, go different places - stuff with your kids will be fine and work out in time

You’re like one of 87 million of us - we Made it, as will you

P.s your body/mind have a very distinct way of protecting itself from ongoing stress and anxiety. Eventually your mind will respond to the big emotional swings, once it identifies the culprit and pattern of when you experience those moments of confusion, fear and can barely breath, it somehow compartmentalizes it over time. In a sense you become numb to not having your kids by you everyday, sounds horrible as a father but it’s not because you want to forget about them its because your body/mind has to because it can’t sustain/function in a constant state of being unbalanced. Sounds weird but you’ll see, the calmness of your situation will come

Grousers · 2022-03-27T16:29:09+00:00

Time. Friends, reading, exercise

TrollCityBlunder · 2022-03-28T14:45:08+00:00

Delete and dissociate from the old life (as much as possible)
Start taking care and loving yourself again
Workout hard and focus on variations (lifting, cardio, etc)
Look up skin care routines and prioritize oral health. You want to look your best
Change your diet to something clean (your physique will thank you later)
Dedicate only one day of the week to debauchery and have that be your rest day too
Get on Tinder or organically meet girls at bars. Be clear about your intentions, so they don’t get hurt. Have fun and plow through the field
Focus on your wardrobe and if need be, get new attire
Work your ass off at your day job. We all need money to fund our lifestyle
Transform into an untouchable, best version of yourself

Title	How to Move On
Author	Dizzy-Ad512
Upvotes	13
Comments	8
Date	March 27, 2022 12:51 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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