This is more to encourage others who are starting the painful process. I am fully free of everything about my ex. We were pretty flat broke mostly her going behind my back and withdrawing hundreds from our accounts. I discovered this reading bank statements from months ago. So no money to split, and our accounts were just linked. Her family and pretty much all of our mutual friends sided with me about the whole thing so while I was blessed in that regard the emotional distress was the closest I ever came to suicide. It’s been about 7 months since the process began. I have left the town (a very small community) for a much more prosperous area and almost 2k miles away with my cat. And I want to remind everyone who is going through this that you can make it. Rely on the people who are your friends get into some kind of support system church or game groups outdoors club casual sports anything IRL with real people who share your values and will support you. And if you feel like you can’t live with it remind yourself of those who would be hurt without you. The pain will fade I can feel it fading despite the occasional spike of pangs but it gets better.