So I apologize in advance for the rambling, but basically I am looking for advice on how to best get this process started, what things i really need to look out for, and how to make sure that I am not completely screwed.

So I've been married now for almost 13 years. We have 2 children, 2 cars, a house and some pets. For the past 5 years I would say, I have been completely miserable. I've continued to push through because I told myself I could handle it, that I didnt want to put the kids through that, etc. But I've recently met someone that has made me realize that I want to be happy and I deserve to be happy.

So at this point I have made up my mind that I am going to get a divorce. I've reached out to one attorney so far, and plan on talking with at least 1 or 2 more. I expect to get the legal advice from them, but I am also curious about the things i need to look out for or do or not do that I might not hear from an attorney.

So I appreciate your advice. Thank you!