Figure here’s a good place to start vs keeping it all in my head. Crowd sourcing marriage advice on Reddit was not on my bingo card for 2025.

Known wife for 12 years. Married 6 months. Lived together twice prior, those ended catastrophic. Moved back across the states and rekindled. Older. Wiser. Maybe things changed. Pressure from parents and social group. Tied the note.

She’s a smoke show. Smart. Great job. Fantastic in laws that I’m very close with.

But.

She’s highly. I mean to the max. OCD. She’s on meds and has now been on stronger meds.

I’m self employed so I know that doesn’t help with the world of control and predictability.

I cover her new Lexus car payment and 2/3 of the mortgage. I give her half my rental income.

I’m no saint. I drink beer or bourbon every other night. Never drunk. Usually while we watch tv.

But tonight I brought home a gecko. Was used on set of a commercial we shot. The coolest friendliest lizard I’ve ever held. So it was given to me as a gift.

Get home. Didn’t tell her. Regardless. She goes ape shit. Like mental. Insane. I’m flabbergasted just in the ongoing momentum of her reaction. Quickly turns to cussing me out. Yelling slurs. Very much the worst and most aggressive I’ve ever heard her.

This is very much a straw in the camels back situation. Just seeking advice on this.