Married 7 yrs with A 2yr old

C20H25N3O-C21H30O2 · 2025-01-20T03:27:23+00:00

She has depression and/or midlife crisis. She's not happy with herself and projects it to the world as accepting accountability is not possible nowadays for most women. It's always someone else's fault.

Lawyer up and prepare yourself. Sort out your finances, try to gather evidence of her temper tantrums, especially towards your child. It may be important during the divorce and inevitable custody battle. Be prepared for false accusations as they are surely on the way.

Best of luck, brother.

Acidhouse2137 · 2025-01-22T17:20:08+00:00

Of course typical blamers. Probably cluster b.

probebeta · 2025-01-22T10:58:50+00:00

I know this isn't advice that's easy to give to someone with a 2 year old. But it's pretty impressive how much respect you get when you walk away, and I mean that in general. If not that you need to take some sort of action because talking isnt going to bring results.

twulvan · 2025-01-20T23:03:50+00:00

I have experinced the same thing that she´s blaming me for all shortcomings and that I don´t pull enough weight in the home. Problem is that I work full time and are exhausted after a day of work and when I get home the apartment looks like a warzone. When she have the 2 year old alone home there is toys and dishes everywhere- I ask her why it looks like it does and why she dont tidy up during the day after each activity. This is where she goes hard on me and tells that it´s not as easy as you think, but it is imo. whenever i´m alone with either one or both kids there is never any issue to have the time to clean up. She has as in your situation a raging temper and this have been ongoing for years. I´ve been both physical and emotional abused during the years. Our 6 year daughter have starting to show the same temper and behavior as her mother whenever we all 3 are together. But when I´m alone with my daughter she is an angel most of the times with regular tantrums but nothing outside the normal.

What I want to say is that have your child in the back of your head all the time and be careful about behavior from your kid, that may come from the mother. Cause I´ve taken the decision to leave her berceuse me and my partners issues are affecting our children.

we´re in the middle of it and all I do to try is to make this separation to go as smoothly as possible for the kids but as soon as the kids gone to bed, she starts giving med names and tell me what a worthless farther I am and so on.

I´m fed up with the abuse and are now putting my kids in the first row to protect them from catching their mother's bad behavior and temperament. I know that it will be better for us to raise the kids not living together in the long run now when I´ve seen that my daughter has started to catch up to the things my partner does to me. For example, when I tell my daughter that she aren´t allowed to view more tv she can give me the finger and say fuck you daddy I hate you. Witch 6 year old says that? I never curse at my partner when our daughter is awake or home, but my other half does that and have even done it to our daughter a couple of times.

Note: She has Borderline and ADHD diagnosed 2 years ago my partner and haven't got proper medication for it and aren't going the psychologist more.

Hope it have given you some insight in your decision-making.

julhodez · 2025-01-20T09:34:03+00:00

I fully indentify with your description. Is this behavior prior to having kids ? Is she a shm and still nursing ? When I had my kid , a very close girlfriend and mom herself told me : "Just to help you out with expectations but parenthood takes a toll on us women. We get totaly out of control and irrational after giving birth and this will last 2 years before we start getting back to our normal selves. Just hang in there , be patient and don't refrain from asking help." I was really stressed out right there , only to find out she was absolutely right.

Now , year 5 from giving birth, our marriage is still walking on thin ice because, as yourself, I too became really fed up with all the abuse and constant non-sense, to the point I'm also considering divorce.

Looking back I think my wife should have accepted psychiatric help because I learned there are serious hormone alterations that might cause her "personality disorder". And also we men are not taught how to deal with this shit without falling into the Fbomb manouver and slaming the door behind us. So , I'm really divided with all this : can I do a little better or is it a lost case and should find my way out ?

Good luck.

Is0prene · 2025-01-20T04:37:39+00:00

You should read the book no more Mr. Nice Guy. It was eye opening to me. Follow what the book says, and if things don't improve just get out of there.

painfulletdown · 2025-01-20T04:09:52+00:00

sounds very similar to my stbx. i recommend getting out now. you will try hard and it will just get worse. if you stay you will regret not taking this oppotunity to divorce and risk your relationship with your child and own personal well being. learn from my tragic mistake.

Title	Married 7 yrs with A 2yr old
Author	jchave12
Upvotes	16
Comments	9
Date	January 20, 2025 3:10 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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