Was in my old (pre-divorce) ‘hood. Kind of on a combination work/personal trip. Reached out to my ex to see if she was interested in meeting.

I know some of you are going to ask “Why?” as did my mom, when I told her after the fact. (She and my ex did not get along well.) I’ve just come to a point where I wanted to apologize for some things and kind of get it off my chest.

It was an interesting conversation, and I think her self-awareness about her habits and behavioral patterns are a lot better. Still no desire to reconcile, though (on my part). Too afraid we’d fall into old patterns and habits. She basically admitted she’d been coddled and provided for until we were married, and carried that sense of entitlement with her into the marriage.

She also admitted she could have been a lot more deliberate about gratitude and acknowledgement of my acts of service while we were married. So, good for her that she has that awareness now, but I don’t really want to put myself back into that situation again.

I genuinely hope that she has a good life going forward, but I think we’re well past the point of reconciliation now.