NEED SUPPORT

Decon_SaintJohn · 2023-08-06T00:55:07+00:00

Probably codependency. Or it could also be that your self esteen has been demolished so bad, that she's the one holding you up by a thread. Whatever the case, run away and dont look back!

justme4556 · 2023-08-05T22:13:05+00:00

Its the nature of the abuse cycle. Stay the course, talk to a therapist. It sucks! Its a brutal process but by the end of it you will be better for it. Hang in there! Feel free to dm me.

dadplup · 2023-08-06T00:44:16+00:00

I went thru a similar situation with my exwife, in my case I felt bad for her and worried about her because I always known she can't take care of herself in her own, she had always needed someone there for her, then I remember the things she did to me and although I feel sad for her situation, after 19 years of marriage I don't want to get involved with her anymore,

It takes time to recover, but you should seek professional help somethings are too big for one person and there is no shame on that

But releasing the serenity prayer helps even if you're not religious, but more importantly remember that she is gone so what ever happens to her is:

Not your coop, not your poop

Gattsama · 2023-08-06T09:05:35+00:00

You are going through withdrawal. The dopamine receptors in your brain are used to the hostile and toxic environment you were in. Once removed, they are out of balance, and waves of guilt are one side effect. It happens to a lot of us, myself included. It passes. The best thing is to go no contact if able. Don't talk, text, email, social media stalk, etc her. If able exercise.

Exercise is a mood stabilizer and a healthy distraction.

In my case, the eX told me to leave and took off her ring. So I left. Once out of the house, I never felt more peaceful and stress free. Lots of stuff happened, but I ultimately filed. And right after, I had these huge waves of guilt, anxiety, worry about her, doubt, etc. About 2 weeks later, it was pretty much all gone. Her actions during the divorce also helped kill those feelings :)

Title	NEED SUPPORT
Author	ronin2722
Upvotes	6
Comments	4
Date	August 5, 2023 9:36 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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