Obsessive Parent

WartimeDad · 2021-08-11T18:05:05+00:00

I would worry that she is making an effort to appear like she is the primary caretaker and that she is worried about the children in your care.

I’m always suspicious and sadly I’m often correct.

pegleg_legal · 2021-08-12T09:50:30+00:00

Let her cool off first before you do anything because telling her she's becoming obsessive was obviously going to enrage her. What other outcome could possibly have resulted? Would she come back and say, "Yes, former husband of mine whom I deeply respect, I will onboard that comment with an open mind."

Conflict-seeking behavior.

My solution would be to make a rule at your house for "no screen time" for certain hours and inform her of those rules at your house. And that certainly you'll comply with the court's order to have a facetime call during bedtime. You look better for monitoring their screen time and you might get what everyone wants.

Now whether you actually enforce the no screen time rules - well, that's totally up to you. But do it for a while and she will call with no response and maybe get tired.

I'm sure there are other solutions but that's what came to mind. Maybe the kids will hate you though.

Heyyyyyyyuuuhhhh · 2021-08-14T02:41:25+00:00

My ex is also a HCBM. It got to the point where I had to completely block her from texting/calling/emailing. There’s this app called “Talking Parents.” You pay monthly (it’s $10 or $12 per month). It’s 100% admissible in court, and NOTHING can be redacted or deleted. You can use it to text and call. Her and I have only communicated through text in that app, but I think if you call the app records the audio.

Like others have said, always be as calm as you can. She’s going to do anything she can to get a reaction, and since she knows you, she knows what buttons to push. Mine uses my son against me as if he is some pawn. Incredibly odd behavior. Even then, I have to play it cool. Trust me, it’s painfully difficult at times. I try to change my perspective and view it as lessons in building patience. It’s a lesson every day lol.

Title	Obsessive Parent
Author	Junior-Database
Upvotes	11
Comments	18
Date	August 11, 2021 4:45 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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