Personality change? Or just me

Alatornio · 2023-05-16T18:17:23+00:00

I used to be very quiet. Now I would say I am much more outspoken. I have no problem giving women my true opinion now hahaha.

Noodletrousers · 2023-05-16T22:06:20+00:00

This is an enormous change in your daily life. It will absolutely have some impact on your relationships with everyone else. This is a great time to put a solid foundation in place for yourself, by yourself. And, women prefer to be listened to not listening, so it can be a turn on (a man of few words) once you hone it. Either you’ll like this new quirk in your personality or you’ll change it. Divorce is trauma and trauma does all sorts of crazy things.

Internal_Echidna5646 · 2023-05-17T00:09:11+00:00

If you have never been screwed over royally or betrayed bigtime by another person or the police or a company or whatever & something bad finally happens it can seriously change your outlook on things. We see it with deaths in the family, if you lost someone when you were young when it happens later in life you are better prepared to deal with it etc. We've all probably seen someone have meltdowns before & thought geez Bill I know it's sad but did you really think this giant corporation was going to take your side & include your feelings in this or just let you go.

If you have experienced loss or extreme heartache before you can cope better. It's why some guys absolutely lose their marbles when wifey blows up the marriage. They have been living in a bubble for so long it hits harder. Maybe it's a form of being Red Pilled or whatever but once someone betrays you it's natural to be skeptical of anything & anyone.

We tend to think everyone has pretty much the same set of values as us.....nope. Some people have zero zero ZERO conscious about stealing, cheating, lying etc. So it's normal to recoil a bit & be more skeptical of things. I used to probably be a little too happy go lucky etc. I'd dealt with death but the outright betrayal for basically no real good reason can be a shock to the system. Not everyone has our best interest in mind. You'll get your old self back but your awareness & BS meter will go way up.

jimsmythee · 2023-05-16T17:47:48+00:00

I was the opposite. I was married to, I mean tethered to, a giant boat anchor that left me each week worn out as I struggled to keep my head above water.

She was going to put me into an early grave with all of her pill popping disasters.

And once I was free of her? My life was filled with happiness and joy and 99% less stress. Each month, there was more money in my bank account than the previous week. I was dating and spending time with incredible women. My kids and I could do stuff together without worrying that my exwife was going to ruin it.

Title	Personality change? Or just me
Author	MrGlass0
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	May 16, 2023 3:10 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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