Advice for a recently divorced 33yr old guy

ciscokid12345 · 2023-04-15T03:05:12+00:00

here’s some sage advice: take care of your body and your mind will follow.

quit drinking and smoking weed. they are both depressants and will unsurprisingly make you depressed. they also make you fat and lazy, which unsurprisingly makes you depressed.
start getting a good night sleep. get out of bed by 6:45 every day and to sleep by midnight.
stop eating garbage. eat mostly vegetables, rice, and fish. zero soda. cut all extra sugar. this is how people live to 100 all around the world. it’s not with hamburgers.
with your extra energy from steps 123, start exercising. lift weights and start jogging.
with your now super charged vitality from steps 1234, start to better your life. go back to school. get a new job. take up some new hobbies. buy a motorcycle or a boat. get back in a band. whatever

this path is proven to work 100% of the time. it’s stupid simple but it’s not easy.

good luck!

Flight_Data_187 · 2023-04-14T23:42:16+00:00

Just got to start with the small things. Started jogging, therapy, started combination of vitamins. Then just started going from there. Still have lots of moments, but it's not as bad. It's finding a new normal. It's hard, but you have to keep living.

Remarkable-Potato21 · 2023-04-15T00:07:05+00:00

One foot in front of the other. Day by day. Still waiting for my sock day to come!

upvotersfortruth · 2023-04-15T06:55:43+00:00

Move out as soon as possible.

FunkyTownMascot · 2023-04-15T07:57:02+00:00

I already had an established career and job so nothing changed there. I did get in the best shape of my life and ended up with full custody so I didn't date for about 3 years. Once I was able to date again I realized that there was an endless line of women ready to have fun and they are older now and like to fuck.

Just don't get married again because it most likely will end at some point and the easier the breakup is the better.

HODLMEPLS · 2023-04-15T00:41:30+00:00

Eat healthy. Lift weights. Avoid sugars.

sicrm · 2023-04-15T12:38:06+00:00

is going back to school the only path to getting a better job?

you could try applying to other jobs and looking up then learning skills that will help you in the long run at your current one/one you want in the future.

wakablahh · 2023-04-15T00:10:30+00:00

I just moved across the US coast-to-coast 6 months ago. Since I don’t know anyone, it forces me to better myself to look better for confidence, to make friends, to challenge myself, re-evaluate what matters to me, etc, with all the time on my hands.

The other plus is new experiences, new hobbies to pick up, and I don’t have to explain myself to anyone I previously knew. Local Facebook groups & the Meetup app have been great to meet people.

Other things I’m doing: a therapy workbook called “how to meet yourself” , other books/videos that focus on your masculinity, waking up earlier, gym, and eating only healthy.

I also, have come to peace that my life could be much better than it was prior, and that helps keep me motivated rather than slinking backwards, although I do have some of those days too.

LateTripper · 2023-04-15T00:52:24+00:00

One thing I can say outside of the typical “hit the gym bro” (because that advice is frankly boring and lame) is that I didn’t get better until I moved out of my parents.

You need to claim your independence back.

out-the_door · 2023-04-15T14:40:32+00:00

I sleep on a mattress on the floor over a garage. Eat mostly junk; sandwiches from 7-11, boxes of Devil Dogs or Yodels; I smoke a pack of Marlboros a day, drive a beater with 80,000 miles, low tire pressure and the inspection's expired; my bank account just got frozen. Hope this makes you feel better.

dday_throwaway3 · 2023-04-15T13:58:39+00:00

> I don’t feel like I’ve made any progress.

Because you don't have a vision of what you want your life to be. We can't define that for you. Ask yourself: Are the things that I’m thinking, doing, paying attention to & spending time on contributing and benefiting significantly to my own personal development that will eventually make my circumstances in life better? If yes, then keep doing them. If not, throw them away, forget about them and move on to the next.

polarshred · 2023-04-15T14:24:21+00:00

Stop jerking off. Seriously.

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy

rsmiley77 · 2023-04-15T17:14:12+00:00

As crazy as it sounds it does begin with eating right. Less sugar and more lean protein ftw. I work a job where I have to have a lot of energy and people see me and will call me out when I’m slacking. Eating right is the number one way I can do what I do.

I also feel that when you eat right your mind is right. What seems lame to some on here is so important to me.

After that you need to come up with a plan to become financially dependent. While more schooling may help it’s also a solution with no payoff for a couple of years and big debt at the end. You should check on local tech training that’s months and not years along with being far cheaper if not free. We should start a thread on here to help with that.

Finally do whatever you need to do to get out of debt and run in the positive moving forward. Don’t date until you can afford to date. Good luck.

Title	Advice for a recently divorced 33yr old guy
Author	MrGlass0
Upvotes	15
Comments	21
Date	April 14, 2023 11:37 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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