Hi all, M43 here, was married for 8 years then divorced. I have 2 people i have had sex with in my life (both longer term relationships, 1 was my ex-wife) and have gone on dates in the past (before me ex) but shied away from one night stands. The one time I did do it, i ran into performance anxiety and yea I haven't done it since.

I would say I have a above average EQ so I tend to want to have a deeper connection with someone. I have a best bud of mine that is the opposite: went through divorced , laid pipe down quite a bit and now back in a relationship. He's been pushing me to get on with it... aggressively.

Now it's been a few years and he's not "wrong"... but I'm not like that and I dunno how else to tell him I need time even though it's been years. He's attempted to line me up with dates but I tend to push back or just agree that the girls cute but I don't follow through. I think he thinks I'm secretly gay to be honest which is funny but it does bug me a bit. I also have dealt with depression and anxiety due to the divorce and I've explained to him we're all different.

Not sure what I want out of this post. I just wanted to see if anyone else has gone through similar with pressure from friends. I feel like I have to prove myself now.