I am currently roommates with my spouse for the past 8 months and she refuses to have sex until I recommit our vows in front of a minister. We were separated over a 1 1/2 years a few years ago and I moved back thinking things would improve. I moved out the first time for health reasons do to the arguing and chest pains. She had a hysterectomy during the separation to remove her crazy hormones but now she has no sex drive. I saw other people when I was separated and she won’t have sex now until I do redo our vows. I think it is ridiculous since I she doesn’t need sex and knows I do. I am considering divorce and moving out again. I am not going to live like this. Afraid of the loneliness but I don’t want to be with someone who uses sex as a weapon. Married 20 years and have a 16 year old son. Advice …52 years old. Thank you. More to the story but that is the summary.