She broke the code.

Throwawaysi1234 · 2023-10-06T16:23:39+00:00

... I mean that's certainly a statement.

I think women are more likely to file for a variety of reasons:

1) Finances

they are financially incentivized by unfair divorce law. Your income doesn't matter when it comes time to split assets, then suddenly it does when it comes time for alimony and child support. Men typically lose out both ways. A woman can get alimony and a boyfriend and gain 90% of the financial benefits of being married while also profiting from her alimony as well.

42% of divorced women claim they got married for financial reasons as opposed to 90% of still married women thar say their primary reason was for love.

2) there is a discrepancy in divorceable behavior

I think this has less explanatory power but men often do engage in the behavior that is cited for divorce more commonly. Men cheat a bit more than women in marriages. It's something like 21% vs. 15%. About half of marriages cite infidelity as a cause. The reason for the discrepancy could be intrinsic to be a man, cultural or some other factor. One reason I've heard is that since women tend to marry older men, it can be the case that a older married men cheat with younger women who are less likely to be married. But older women will cheat with older men who are more likely to be married.

Some of this I don't even think "fault" is measurable.

One factor is that men tend to do more paid work and less housework and women don't appreciate the more paid work nearly as much as they would prefer more housework.

Another issue might be "meeting emotional needs" but who knows if that is better explained by women being too needy or men being too unwilling

HedgehogHole · 2023-10-06T19:10:18+00:00

I mean I do agree sometimes. Some women settle down too early, or convince themselves that they like a traditional role when they really want freedom and independence. It’s more lying to themselves and thinking that love itself will be enough to overcome what their mind needs vs. externally lying if that makes sense. I’m the type of person who feels like staying home and being a full time homemaker and mother is stifling. If I married a man who was dead set on being the breadwinner with me staying at home and told myself that I was okay with changing for him, my mental health would deteriorate to the point where it would severely impact my behavior, both towards my husband and when it came to basic functioning.

Cyan_Alvein · 2023-10-07T08:34:44+00:00

This look like an AI video for me

Title	She broke the code.
Author	gudachi
Upvotes	14
Comments	10
Date	October 6, 2023 1:25 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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Comments

1) Finances

2) there is a discrepancy in divorceable behavior