Stbxw and I are stuck in same house going on 6 weeks waiting on the process to run its course. This morning 7yr old daughter defied mom over something smalllll.

Stbxw after serving me all of a sudden turned into a "huge" disciplinarian in the house and has been using fear based parenting. "if you do that I'll take away this". We'll daughter just got into soccer I just paid for the season, cleats, pics, uni, etc and she's super excited about it. I came home from the gym and daughter says mommy says I can't go to soccer practice today.

I said verbally enough of the fear based parenting, you are going to soccer, that's a commitment not a toy to take away. Wife was recording on her audio on phone.

Later in the co-parenting app her lawyer says wife informed me of your encounter today and we don't think you're even fit to co-parent at this point by bringing up adult issues in front of the kid. We'd like to move this process along swiftly for the SAFETY of your daughter and threatened that my potential custody percentage just continues to drop.

What the actual fuck? Can I not stick up for myself and what I believe in? A sport is a commitment that teaches you many things about life.

They also say that when daughter disrespects mother and I hear it, I just sit there and don't discipline. What the fuck? I'm going to have a different parenting style in my own house and it's not my spouse anymore, I'm not going to jump in, she needs to discipline her own kid too.

Am I off base here?