Memories

zvekl · 2024-11-20T16:53:44+00:00

Apple you can request to show a person less but holding on to that person in the people section and a menu pops up

23FlavorsInDrPepper · 2024-11-20T00:34:19+00:00

At least on Google, you can “block” a person, so it won’t show them in memories. This is how I got Google to ignite my ex wife, but still show family pictures of me and my kids.

Medical_Number8972 · 2024-11-19T20:32:56+00:00

Google is great at creating thoughts you'd like to forget. My ex would haunt me though I thought I had successfully deleted her photos .

notyourmama827 · 2024-11-19T16:24:36+00:00

My husband has those little shutterfly photo books. Yeah , on film they looked like a perfect family but I know they weren't. His x gave him those.

I think about those "happy memory" times especially when I match up the" photo smiles " to the woman who told him to outsource sex but give her the money too......

Those memories hold a lot of pain for my husband.......he's holding the photo books for his kids because they aren't adults yet.

Efficient-Mango7708 · 2024-11-19T13:40:03+00:00

I was just dealing with this yesterday. Sometimes I look back with fondness, other times I I wonder what happened. Her life post divorce is going smoothly compared to mine. Anyway they are just thoughts and emotions. I have learned to examine and process them. I thought about turning the feature off or deleting, moving pictures but it’s also a reminder that I experience nostalgia I cherish old moments. She left the house, left pictures, left presents from friends. It’s a reminder that I was trying to build something together and she was very self centered.

I hope you just deal with those emotions brother. It’s hard sometimes, but you can do hard things.

Content-Class1259 · 2024-11-19T03:33:22+00:00

I deleted everything, I guess it what’s you feel best as an individual.

JonesyOC · 2024-11-19T01:01:32+00:00

I'm on android so I can only speak to me but I deleted all of the pictures of her that I shouldn't have moving forward, if you know what I mean.

Beyond that, every other picture of her or her and our son have gone into a secured folder that I have to enter a password to see. So, you could try something like that. I feel like having that buffer is nice and that way you haven't deleted anything you might regret losing.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2024-11-19T00:04:26+00:00

I turn off flashbacks.

HerbEverstanks · 2024-11-18T23:06:42+00:00

I don't have any children (except her) it's a lot easier for me to delete everything. The funny thing for her "memories" or a collage on her phone would be photos of her giving head to her affair partners. That's how I found out.

I could only imagine the frustration of having the x in a photo you keep. But it's for the kid(s).

regertsrus · 2024-11-18T23:01:55+00:00

When I realized my wife is a compulsive liar and cheater, I got a tattoo to remind me of the day I decided to bury who I knew for over 20 years and start a new life. Her picture don't bother me at all. Not a bit 3 years later.

Beamformer · 2024-11-18T20:57:00+00:00

Personally, I'm not deleting pictures with my kid in them, in fact I haven't thrown away or deleted anything related to family pictures. If I want to walk down memory lane, I do it. I live in the house we built and shared for years, so i think I had to get over the memories thing quickly. Now I look at her old images with apathy and maybe a bit of pity for the wreck she made of being a wife and mother.

Notlikeotherguys · 2024-11-18T20:38:56+00:00

Yeah I hated this at first. Various social media apps showing me memories. Especially when the wounds were fresh. I just kept reminding myself that none of it (our marriage) was real and it was all a lie. I do cherish the pictures of the kids though, and am glad they were in my life whatever the cost.

Feisty_Elderberry_96 · 2024-11-18T20:30:57+00:00

I haven't deleted anything. And no, I don't long for my ex. I greatly dislike her.

My photo memories are probably different than yours, though. Very few of my ex and I together. And even if so, they were happy times and part of my life. (no wedding pics though - I literally have no idea where those are)

For pictures of my child (and her/us), I always think of the date it was taken . . . And think about how she was vetting divorce lawyers whilst smiling for the camera. In other words, the pics make me happy I'm no longer with her.

My take, the pics are memories and part of your life. Part of your story. Deleting them kind of avoids dealing with all of this crap that comes along with divorce.

Just my two cents. I know a lot of people go scorched earth....

domo_roboto · 2024-11-18T20:14:21+00:00

On iphone, you can set to not display a certain person. from the People album: 1. Open the Photos app and go to Albums. 2. Scroll down and select People & Places. 3. Tap on the person you want to hide. 4. Tap the three dots in the top-right corner. 5. Select either Feature This Person Less or Never Feature This Person, depending on your preference.

Noobinpro · 2024-11-18T19:54:38+00:00

Put family photos on a sim card or flash drive. Put it away in case your kid wants pics someday but only for that reason.

Title	Memories
Author	stakemostgifted
Upvotes	10
Comments	20
Date	November 18, 2024 7:46 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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