Me and my STBXW are still in the middle of the process, and getting to the time where we need to tell the kids (8yo m, 6yo m). We wanted to wait until after the holidays and birthdays, but need to soon to get the divorce process going and get them in the class our state requires them to take.

I was hoping to have them in a developed relationship with a therapist through the school, but they unfortunately pulled the service a few weeks ago and will take a bit to get the new one set up.

Both boys are amazing kids but have some struggles emotionally, oldest more with anxiety and younger with anger/big emotions. Telling them feels like the hardest thing I've had to do, just knowing it will hurt them. The STBXW has had no interest in figuring out the conversation together but wants us to do it together. We will at first try 50/50 (I may push for more if things deteriorate) where I stay in the house.

Does anyone have any advice they could give, and/or tell me how a similar experience went?