Me and my soon to be ex wife, have had a fantastic relationship. We have a beautiful son as well.

After being disrespected for 3 years and taken advantage of, I’m done. She makes sly remarks about my appearance on the regular, she constantly accuses me of cheating while I was deployed. We rarely have sex, and all she ever asks for is money.

Then, I go through hoop and bounds to get her family here, because they are immigrants. They live in my home, they don’t help with our child other than when he’s in a good mood, they constantly team up against me in conversations, and I feel used. They do everything she does. Aside from threatening to take my son away from me during arguments, they tell me I don’t own anything and that I should be thankful she married me. I have tons of screenshots and recordings, and I’m ready to let go.

I busted my ass in the military. I’ve worked hard to balance our budget so we had a home. She destroyed my credit, she buys stupid shit like coffee mugs and clothes and lotions and makeup on MY card. There’s nothing I can do aside from blowing my brains out or divorce. I wouldn’t dare leave my son.

Her and her sister made fun of me for being diagnosed with PTSD and Generalised Anxiety Disorder while I was on deployment. Constantly making snarky remarks saying the military isn’t hard and growing up in their home country is harder. If I crack a joke about their nation’s issues they get pissy and berate me, even though I’m completely trying to lighten the mood and have fun. But they talk shit about the U.S. daily.

She hates my family, and refuses to leave our state even though I have a 6 figure job offer in Chicago. On top of that it’s a career I’m passionate about.

So I have to leave her. I don’t know what to do, other than say goodbye. I could tolerate the verbal abuse. I could tolerate having my money drained from my account. But if the courts say I can’t have my boy, I’m going to lose it. He’s the only person who doesn’t make me feel alone in this world, and if he’s ripped from me, I probably won’t last long. I’m not a gambling man, but I can see the future I can build for myself and my son.

Please, please, please, take care of yourselves. Relationships are hard, but being alone is harder.