I will tag the previous post in the comments somehow, or you can look through my profile for it.

Updates:

- got into a huge fight last Wednesday. She recorded everything trying to paint me as an abuser, which sucked.

-she apparently threw her ring out the night I went back to duty, which hurts.

-her parents are still rooting for me, because they think what she’s done is beyond messed up.

- her parents also want what’s best for us, but want us to reconcile and stay together

- found out my in laws also defend my reactive behavior when she tries talking bad about me

- just knowing she keeps on talking about me in a bad light, through the grapevine of course

-her parents also are gonna “kick” her out finally.

I’m still so lost with all of this. Still countless questions for it.

Why does she keep trying to bad mouth me?
She’s the one that cheated and abandoned our family, and it’s only been a month and a half.

Why do I stay on her mind when she “doesn’t respect” me, and constantly resents me?

Why is she so adamant on being “out to get him”?

There’s a lot of other things racing through my mind. I still see room for us to reconcile and try again. I wish that she would see that too. My best friend just says don’t go back to her if it happens. I’m also waiting for my lawyer to get the initial complaint paperwork and divorce demands served to her this week. It’s just all so much. It feels like too much at some points.

Let me know your thoughts please. Talking to strangers on the outside of this really does help.