Just wanted to give everyone an update and rant a bit. Went to a third lawyer that she picked for mediation. It was $400 for the hour and the first 15 minutes or so were ground rules and introductions. Then she wasted some time on technical matters on how the forms were filled out and lawyer shut her down saying they can do it for us and those are just technical matters. I mentioned alienation and child custody when she stated she wanted things to stay the same with her and our child staying together every night. Lawyer basically said we should also consult a child therapist and financial consultant which I agreed to. They then asked us about work etc. I told them what I did and she told them how she decided not to work after marriage to be a sahm. Lawyer mentioned that she would need to find work and she counters with her plans to get a Mickey Mouse online mba so she could have higher earning potential for the child even though she’s never worked in a business capacity of any sort in any field and has almost no work experience. I just shrugged and figured she can waste whatever money I give her.

This week I started cleaning out my new place. I hope to decorate it with our child so they have a nice place to stay during their time with me. I have been paying for mortgage, utilities, child activities and left her with two credit cards for food etc (I placed limits on the cards so they wont be abused). The stbxw asked me today that she needs temporary spousal support so she can start paying for her online MBA. I told her we should run it by the lawyer since it’s not a necessary expense and I told her I plan to just ask for the worse case California situation for me which is 50/50 for assets, 50/50 for child custody and physical custody and whatever they calculate for alimony and child support. She then went off on how we had an understanding from prior conversations that she would get majority legal custody and physical custody to let me off the hook on some assets and alimony. I countered with I don’t care about the money because I really don’t and she asked what it would take to get 100% of the child. Like wtf. First off my child is priceless to me which is why I am divorcing her because of alienation from the child and second off she knows I am a high income and network individual who has minimal need for money because I really only earned for my family. So saving a few hundred K for the next decade or so means nothing to me. I just have to work a bit harder or spend a little less to catch up. She also wanted to move the child closer to her family which is out of country. I’m for sure asking the lawyer to file the papers where the parents can’t have the child leave the state or country. The worse thing is I know she’s using all her time now to program our child against me. But I’m going to gray rock until I get through this divorce and then I am winning my child over by being the best single dad ever.