This may be long winded, but I’m not really sure how to overcome this situation. There’s so many details and so many nuances that I’m sure all of you guys have experienced throughout this time of divorce.

I was that guy, the loyal, hard-working, dedicated husband. Fast-forward 10 years into our relationship and six years into our marriage and I got extremely ill not knowing what was going on, going to doctors like crazy because I thought I was dying. Come to find out that I have been dealing with major depressive disorder and it was manifesting itself in other ways and continues to as well.

The trigger that brought it to the surface was when she left six months ago out of nowhere telling me that she thought it was time for us to go our separate ways. Looking back yes, we were having some difficulties, I was asking her to be accountable to herself and our relationship as a marriage, trying to steer the boat in the right direction by ensuring that we were both doing our part. Maybe I was too hard. Maybe I wasn’t kind enough with my words, but she never once talk to me about Wanting to get a divorce until the day she did it. We agreed on it and said OK let’s go our separate ways up until last week. We were at the final stretch of dividing all of our assets out of nowhere, I get the “talk to my lawyer” and it broke me so hard. How could someone be so naïve? How could I be so naïve to think that we could handle this amicably what’s this need of having to fight for things that aren’t yours? Why do women or men for that matter get so entitled I mean it’s disgusting.

I guess my rant is to ask, if you guys have been through this, how did you get through it? and what would you do the same or do differently?