Who cares about the red pill... what about the blackpill? r/BlackPillScience seems to only cite studies and confirms most 'red pill truths' like: income, height, race, physical attractiveness, etc.

Is there any material debunking this? Women aren't a monolith I know. Most of this stuff counts for women for sure, but only for the top males, so not really much sympathy from me here. See stable marriage problem.

From my opinion this stuff seems clearly true. People like those they perceive as attractive, physically, professionally, socially. True for men AND women.

Below is what I am trying to get past:

Maybe the part that bothers me the most about the blackpill is the idea that more and more men are becoming celibate over the past 20 or so years, like myself, I'm not really a super notable person, although I do try, but clearly not enough, its possible that I am just really ugly, or being more ethnic looking drops a few points. The numbers on this stuff seem hard to ignore? Women are still at the same levels, so really something has to give. Porn isn't really a good explanation, as most men would rather have sex with a woman than with their hand.

Due to the increasingly inequality of technology, like online dating, etc, it seems to concentrate a very small proportion of men to a lot of women, where women keep a online harem of men. From what I know women will lie about their number of partners, from fear of being judged. Basically as we move further with technology and away from traditional values; womens nature (standard red pill: hypergamy, women concentrating on best males available, cucking other men) is being exposed through technology and these stats seem to align with these thoughts? This also means that women will keep an online harem of men to select from where they have sex with multiple men once a week.

Clearly this isn't always true, women aren't a monolith, but if its true atleast a majority of the time is it not useful? It makes me very uncomfortable with a power imbalance like this between men and women. You want a partner, someone to grow with, I am not sure how to square these two ideas, a woman who just views you as provider.

Eventually the cognitive dissonance gets to you and no amount of gaslighting can make you see otherwise, its my lived experience. Lots of the posters in this thread are fds members or just complete blue pill.

I am looking forward to have my mind changed. Please I do not want to live with this negativity and hate.