I cannot escalate with women, I feel if I attempt to make a relationship overtly sexual then I feel like it makes every interaction and deed I did beforehand as selfish and no longer altruistic, as a goal to get in their pants, like grooming someone, this causes me to be passive, redpill strategies say to be forward but I also don't want to make the other person uncomfortable or feel like they've been harassed which has legal and social ramifications, even if I ask for consent I feel like it undoes the altruism towards the other person, perhaps it is because I lack faith in my personality and rely on being 'nice' to much. This is exacerbated by the social expectation for men to take the lead and iniative, I have been hanging out with a girl from a patriarchal culture so cannot expect her to reverse the roles especially since she has been in the west for less than a year but I'm kind of confused if they were dates or just hanging out. So I'm kind of stuck in a rut and paralysed as every wrong step could reflect badly on my culture and her experience as she is a guest in the country although I realise i am also an individual, I would be fine just being friends too. I should add that I am in my mid twenties and was a hikkomori for many years and this is the first time a women has shown interest in me.