Well, firstly, sorry for my bad English, it's not my 1st language. What is more, this post is not going to be full of hate or resent towarss women. It's more like a venting or rant. Since I don't know any other places, which I could post this stuff on.

The reason why I'm writing this post is literally my dating situation. And before we properly start, I just want you to briefly understand my situation. 24 years old athlete here (yes, I do play sports for living right now), been told that I'm good looking and all that stuff. What is more, I actually do believe that I'm not bad looking at all. It's my attitude that it's killing me.

Whenever I start talking to a girl, I never rush/act desperate and get sexual quickly. I would even say that I tend to be very humble with people around me. Why? Because I want them to be happy and feel comfortable aeound me. However, it just seems to kill my all chances with ladies.

Yes, I do get good ammount of matches on OLD and I do receive attention from opposite sex in daily life. However, because of my comnunication style, I never seem to actually get close to the girl. What is more, what always tends to happen, the girl would always end up with a typical "alpha" guy or jus a "bad boy type" of dude. And the issue is that the dude would effortlessly attract her, while I would need to work super hard, while talking and courting her. And I just don't seem to understan that.

It seems super crazy that someone who doesn't care about the girl, can attract her so easily. While I never have any of that "easy life" happening to me. Listen, Im not trying to judge girls for preffering someone else. It's their life and their choices. However, it just kills me that I always need to put A LOT OF EFFORT into courting the girl, while some random douche can just get her effortleslly. That's literally the reason why Im sooo frustrated. Any advice here guys and girls?