Red pill rage after a breakup

Ok-Blacksmith-9418 · 2022-09-08T01:25:01+00:00

Welcome to what women have to face all the time, being wifey material for men who just absolutely obliterate us, at least half a dozen times before we learn to date smart.

zapadz · 2022-09-08T00:44:59+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKnFlK9EwB0

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SqDylBrAFGU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BVqANXVTLN4

http://happinessbeyondthought.blogspot.com/2012/05/surrendering-i-letting-go-of-suffering.html

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MU1Rp184IT4

Naus1987 · 2022-09-08T07:15:55+00:00

You need to get better at vetting women, but being so young makes it challenging, because you don't always know what the red flags are.

There are good women out there, and they do want to date good men. But you have to be patient. Don't settle for bad women. And don't throw your money at bad women. Don't let yourself become madly in love with someone until you can verify the integrity of their character.

Controlling your emotions can be challenging, especially as a younger person. But you'll need the discipline to say "hey, this woman is crazy--I won't date her. I need to stay single until I meet a good woman."

Of course, if you find controlling your emotions challenging, because a pretty face overrules all logic, then at least you can empathize with women who act irrationally for a pretty face too.

Being human ain't easy, but the ones who can overcome their faults "ARE" the good ones. And if you can't overcome your faults, then you're no better than the garbage you get stuck with. You have to rise above the trash and set better standards.

Stand above the current, or get swept away into madness. You got this!

impressablenomad38 · 2022-09-08T05:26:55+00:00

r/exnocontact will be helpful. People really fucking suck man, my boyfriend broke up with me because I told him he needed to stop threatening to break up with me everytime he didn't get what he wanted. It's not about you though, some people just have issues

Negative-Train-3303 · 2022-09-08T15:54:46+00:00

Look up codependency and covert contracts if you haven't already. Sometimes codependents can fall into the trap of assuming that if they pour all this love into a person that maybe they will pour it all back. Sadly it doesn't always work that way - people don't always share your values and ethics; some will lie to you. It sucks.

But don't despair. Don't allow these individuals to change the best parts of you. Generosity, kindness and empathy are super powers and to the right girl it will be a gift she will treasure and return in multitudes. Don't lose hope and take things slower next time 😊 peace!

lemoncurdmacaron · 2022-09-08T08:37:01+00:00

Well, if she hooked up so fast with you, why wouldn’t she do it with someone else? It’s usually a very specific type of women that do that very fast and catch feelings fast, usually people who are not in it for the long run.

wasted_basshead · 2022-09-08T20:36:18+00:00

I’m so sorry about your bad experience-I’ve been cheated on when I didn’t even think about spending my life with anyone else and walked on eggshells with a boyfriend I had for five years. I gave him chance after chance; but I got very angry after for a while. I can understand that. I can’t say I hate men-but I’m not sure if I can trust myself with anyone. I’ve been burned by a woman before too (which is why I think it’s not gender specific; but just general disdain for others). People can be terrible. Especially when it feels like you can bring out the worst in them while you give the best in you.

EmbarrassedEmu27 · 2022-09-09T00:01:13+00:00

Critical thinking and compassion can calm the rage. Hold compassion for yourself and the girl. You guys are young and still figuring out desire and pleasure. It seemed like a situation of rushing into feelings without longterm consideration , a normal thing that happens at your age.

Attraction can get two people together but they have to still work to build a relationship on top it. Read up on triangle theory of love to get a perspective.

Alexi pappas Olympic athlete said this in interview which I think might help you. “ Whenever you're chasing a big dream, you're supposed to feel good a third of the time, okay a third of the time, and crappy or not great a third of the time, and if you feel roughly in those ratios, it means you are in fact chasing a dream”. Dream here being seeking companionship.

Don’t center the bad experience around women but as an experience of dating. As anything else in life worked in life very easily for you ? . How would you get magically good at choosing right partner at 19. Get curious, learn and mature from the experience. This is adulting.

Hold compassion for yourself and accept this as mistake of judgement from both your parts. Also, please avoid buying expensive gifts very early in dating . It puts pressure on other person and also increases your expectations. There are so many cute ways to express affection which does not require money.

vcreativ · 2022-09-09T10:05:34+00:00

I’ve accepted that I shouldn’t try and be something I’m not and happy in life rn

Solid thoughts.

I don’t have any problem getting sex/ laid etc, but that old red pill rage is still in me, I just know it. Any advice?

You say you don't have issues getting laid. My question would be with whom. For the most part I wouldn't expect women that are easy to get to hugely correlate with the set of women that are super interested in treating you well... not to say that they couldn't, or that other women necessarily wouldn't.

So to be dropped by someone suddenly from that set, to me seems quite expected. The Stoic in me is surprised at your surprise.

I think it's not exactly emotionally respectful what she did, but I suspect she never really felt anything for you. Not anything of depth anyway. I don't see how she'd move on from this so quickly otherwise. My suspicion is that your rage is really just malformed hurt in response to that fact. You liked her more than she did, and she discarded it as if it's worthless.

Of course that hurts, but anger isn't the tool here, mourning is. Mourn the loss. Understand that, unless for example you cheated on her, that this isn't your fault. She didn't like you the way you liked her, she might've (ultimately you'll never know) played a role.

And always be prepared for others to disqualify themselves willingly.

Ultimately, her choices are her choices, but you get to choose who you hang out with. If you're aiming at hooking up with women I fear the risk is pretty high to be treated as replaceable because that's the set of people you're targeting.

I'm not judging you for it, I'm just saying this doesn't seem super unexpected. But that's not women's fault, it's the women you're hanging out with, and even if you have a love connection someone might treat you badly. It's not great but it's allowed.

A degree of anger is healthy I think, but anger lacking measure feeds rage, mourning dispels it. Mourn the loss, appreciate that you're hurt, talk to someone to process it or write it all down in a journal. Then move on, not before.

Anger works-ish while you're young, but as you get older the world becomes too nuanced for it to remain effective. And especially if you're aiming at being a man (which is really at the heart of many on this sub, in my view), you must discover the full range of emotional processing and expression tools within yourself.

The reason you get angry, is because you're not using the right tool for the job. Try screwing a table together with a hammer and not get frustrated.

Title	Red pill rage after a breakup
Author	Jaustin30
Upvotes	10
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Date	September 8, 2022 12:19 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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