Should I be worried if I’m 26 and never had a girlfriend

xvszero · 2025-03-19T17:03:16+00:00

I dunno, so-called "alphas" seem to promote "situationships" over real relationships, I've never heard of anyone calling that a "beta" thing. Albeit those terms are idiotic.

I tend to look at dating through a social darwinsit perspective.

...Why? This isn't how Darwin thought at all.

Anyway, why all of these situationships? Have you ever wanted a relationship with any of them?

ucladumbass · 2025-03-19T17:18:03+00:00

I think the main problem here is the overthinking.

You're doing it now with this post even.

Life has a magical way of repeatedly telling us we do not have to "force" anything.

Just keep being You unconditionally, because thats what attracts others!

Positive-Ultimacy · 2025-03-20T01:55:39+00:00

In my opinion i would rather be worried to be with the wrong person vs not being with anyone

oldcousingreg · 2025-03-19T17:32:31+00:00

I would say it’s not abnormal in this day and age to have only experienced “situationships.”

That alpha/beta male bullshit is nonsense, though

Kitchen_Entertainer9 · 2025-03-19T18:45:59+00:00

I think you're fine,i was the same as you with situationships, and had a ton of flings with chicks. I was in one currently and she suddenly started asking to come over, treating me out, and met my family. Everything was so personal so I asked what she wanted and we ended up dating. Pretty surreal since I never had a gf but for some reason it all feels so natural

Think_Travel5752 · 2025-03-19T23:50:07+00:00

Hey am 33 and i never had a gf ( body count one)

Rad1Red · 2025-03-19T18:29:27+00:00

If that's the way you think, you don't have as good of a personality as you believe. Sorry.

2025-03-19T18:12:25+00:00

If you're having sex, you're on the right track as far as being alpha or beta. Generally it was regarded alphas are able to obtain sex where as betas either don't or only do on very rare circumstances.

A couple of situationships is more abundant of a circumstance than a typical beta male would experience in their sex lives. So I would put the concept of you being a beta out of your mind.

However, If you don't "feel" connections to any of these women you meet ever that could be an issue. You didn't say anything about thst as you were worried about other Darwin stuff in your headspace. I'm not saying you don't feel connections but if you do that could explain why your in situationships over relationships.

Like I eluded to in the paragraph about when you're noticing that you're not having relationships your concern is from a alpha beta perspective and not a " Am I experiencing emotional abnormality" or "some kind of inability to empathize with a partner" perspective, which if you actually did want relationships would not be where your headspace should ideally be. Which means your head is all about the sexual side of things than the romantic side of things right now even though you're saying your concerned about the romantic side of things in the post.

If you want to be in relationships Then you need to focus on your feelings instead of whatever you were worrying about in this post, that's not the path to relationships. That's just a path to more sex.

And yes, a great way to to find relationships is to start with sex, but you need to also be able to have the capacity to fall and feel emotions, which based on your concerns it doesn't seem like you're very attuned with the emotional experience. So focus on that. And don't worry about your sex getting skills because you clearly have that down. Focus on exploring your emotional range in human interactions and that will get you relationship.

Being vulnerable and exposing yourself emotionally is how you get into a relationship. A relationship is a leap of faith.

Steelfield43 · 2025-03-19T20:09:21+00:00

I was in the same boat. Didn’t have a serious relationship till late 20s. Mostly had situationships until that point. Dated her for a little while experienced heartbreak for the first time. Worked on myself. Met someone in early 30s now we are about to move in together. We all have our own timeline of things to come

Fluffy_Split3397 · 2025-03-19T20:15:56+00:00

The problem today is, that it’s hard to meet new people. Nothing wrong about you. Societal structure today is not humane. Added the madness of social media. Modern life is horrible. We all on the same boat

MaynardRosemary · 2025-03-24T22:48:42+00:00

"Honesty if I’m 30 (probably sooner) and if I still don’t have a partner I’m just going to start doing fentanyl or jump off a bridge." That´s dark. I used to think the same but later i realized that the reason i havent had a girlfriend is because of me. í´m going to make you a question. when was the last time you try something like ask for a date with a woman ? when i made that question to me i realized that the reason is because of me.

Being single is not to take a harsh decision like the one that you are thinking, just try and know rejection and once you embrace rejection go and try again, that´s is the only way. To make you know that at 30´s is just a number and is not the end of the world, my father met my mother when he was 42.

fearlessactuality · 2025-03-29T23:20:49+00:00

Nah I have several female friends way older than that still looking. They’re great. Just bad luck.

Social Darwinism is so dumb, man. Listen to women. You could believe us that this elaborate system is a bullshit lie, or I guess eventually unaliving yourself is apparently a better option? Come on, man.

aardvarkllama_69 · 2025-04-19T03:40:18+00:00

The "higher value" thing is fake. It's astrology for men. There's no set value for men and women, certainly not of their relationships. This isn't baseball, you can't calculate a batting average for being desired. It's something you have to make happen. You create the value! But honestly, you probably should be worried, especially because you seem very unhappy about it, which is reasonable, and you should take action to do something about it. First things first - stop thinking of yourself as a beta male, another fake bullshit term made up by some weirdo man child on the Internet. You're a man, not a beta male. Start having the courage to ask out women and see where that gets you and then go from there.

El-Myrone445 · 2025-03-20T18:25:56+00:00

Women really have nothing to offer you apart from the Punani.

At 26, just stack your paper and boss up ninja.

koska_lizi · 2025-03-21T12:57:09+00:00

If you're gay - then no.

Title	Should I be worried if I’m 26 and never had a girlfriend
Author	Charming-Seaweed-805
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Date	March 19, 2025 4:57 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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