Should I even try?

zoemondo · 2020-08-27T02:17:24+00:00

How old are you?

RedPillDetox · 2020-08-27T08:29:49+00:00

You're too deep into toxicity to have a relationship right now. In fact, your problems seem to go below just dating or MGTOW. Refrain from dating for a while. Stop consuming anything even slightly related to red pill or MGTOW. Get out of this sub, even.

Go to therapy if you're not already. Start making friends with women. In the long term start dating. If you stumble on some shallow bitch don't take it personal, just desert her until you find a nice woman. Open up yourself to change and don't allow your old thinking patterns regarding MGTOW to control you. Like... on the long term, start reading a bit about feminism and contradictory views of MGTOW. It may sound stupid, but MGTOW doesn't own the truth, reality is usually in between, and even if you don't become a feminist being exposed to more nuanced views can be healthy PROVIDED you're INDEED open to change. Otherwise, studies show that being expose to opposite points of view only contribute to furter radicalisation.

Comfortable_Intern57 · 2020-08-27T19:49:47+00:00

I've been in abusive relationships too. My advice is as soon as any abusive behaviors start too show, break up with them immediately. Pay attention to those red flags. I remember I was going to break up with one guy because I started to feel like he was mocking me and being a bit abusive and that our personalities just weren't matching, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and that was a horrible mistake. The abuse just got worse and then I found out he was cheating on me the whole time.

Stargazer1919 · 2020-08-27T20:26:09+00:00

Those angry, depressed, resentful feelings are going to show themselves and repel any decent woman you have interest in. Although you might end up with someone who is also angry, depressed, and resentful. Doesn't make a healthy relationship.

Finding someone to date won't fix your problems.

You have to find peace with yourself somehow. However you accomplish that is up to you. It's not easy but it's worth it.

Good luck.

imbecile_keshig · 2020-08-27T02:31:20+00:00

You should try spending your time in Nature and living in the moment

atman714 · 2020-08-27T04:08:14+00:00

Because, friend, you're going to die. I am going to die too. As Kanye says, "I live for now, I dont know what happen after here" lol. Anyway, take some risks my man! Get into a relationship, embrace the polarities of life. Laugh with the good times, cry with the bad. Don't take it too seriously. And eventually, you'll end up finding a girl who wants all the things that you want in life (ideally anyway). You don't need a relationship, but what's so bad about taking some risks and living a little? Also, sorry to hear you've been mocked. I'd definitely say jump ship at the first sign of a girl being rude and disrespecting you. It will only speed up the process and weed out the shitty people.

2020-08-28T03:04:09+00:00

Forget it, but just right now.

Focus on making friends you REALLY care about and enjoy hanging out with (not frat bros you hope will hook you up), and encouraging them to get out, have parties, invite other friends. Because fake friends lead to superficial girls, real friends mean the people they hang around are probably going to be nice, and any that have girlfriends have nice friends (how I met my GF).

Try not to look for girlfriends, just get to know people and have fun, things start sliding in place, though don't be scared to ask when you think things are getting more serious.

unlivedbread · 2020-08-28T20:00:21+00:00

if you're suicidal then you shouldn't be thinking about getting into relationships. Fix your mental health issues and the good women will come

KurkTheMagnificent · 2020-08-28T04:31:32+00:00

Ask yourself what women will do for you, and if you believe it is worth it. Women will not cure your loneliness.

Title	Should I even try?
Author	MrMediocre123
Upvotes	3
Comments	14
Date	August 27, 2020 1:34 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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