What Does Masculinity Mean?

OmqItzMilkyway · 2023-01-04T07:31:20+00:00

I'm just over here wondering why we're giving influencers so much control over the narrative. Where are their areas of study? Do they have degrees? Why are they running other people's lives when they're clearly doing shady things behind the scenes? Their followers aren't asking enough questions.

Arcaribus · 2023-01-04T07:51:44+00:00

I think of it as not operating from fear.

Not being afraid to say whatever, do whatever and fuck people who tell you it's wrong.

You want to open up to people, but are afraid they will judge you? Doesn't seem very masculine to me.

You want to be muscular as hell, but people are telling you that they don't like that look? Fuck it, do it anyway.

People will contradict other people. So it's all just noise. Do what you feel like you should do and the right people will follow you.

Basically, be in control of your situation and don't let that control slowly dissipate.

Budget_Bid4197 · 2023-01-04T04:05:57+00:00

maybe its the way they measure there success

Andromeda_______ · 2023-01-04T09:24:20+00:00

In a society where men become more sedentary (office jobs etc), they will attempt to adopt the most superficial elements of "masculine ideals" and promote those as the definition of your masculinity. Things like going to the gym.

I have met farmers in rural Africa. They don't go to the gym or shout about being a man. They were skinny and strong, and their sense of value came from the value of their work, and their position within the community. They were the head of their house, but they felt no need to tell anyone how manly they were. They were also deeply religious and family was the most important thing to them. Not exactly the "heroic purpose" some alpha men squeak about, but a humble life that is full of integrity.

Overall_Explorer7158 · 2023-01-04T15:16:44+00:00

Developing your masculinity as a man is often extremly fulfilling from my own experience. But I should probably explain what masculinity means for me: It's a combination of a lot of things but the need to climb higher and the will to dominate your life and probably also the will to create strong children.

From those, you can see that masculinity is closely linked with always moving forward which explains the obsession with sports as it's one of the four big ways you can improve as a person (physical/social/monetary/psychological) Starting with the physical part is by far the easiest and will lead you to develop your social and psychological level as well.

And to be honest, if you only focus on academics then there is probably a lot of wasted time in your day. Except if you actually go for the highest possible grades which is great but then that's only until you have the money and freedome to develop other aspects of your life. For most of us, there is no excuse not to workout. The only excuse if if you spend every waking minute to reach your goal.

mikayrodr · 2023-01-04T21:49:10+00:00

I’m 90% sure my dad would be considered a “feminine man.” He’s also the best man I know.

Things my dad is or does (which shaped what I consider masculine): - he can fix or build anything, and if he doesn’t know how he will teach himself - a true partner to my mom. No one “leads” in my parents relationship. They are equal in everything - makes us feel happy when we are sad - pushes his kids to be better and to be kind - sacrifices to make sure his family is safe, happy, secure - he’s a big softy!! He’s never been afraid to cry or laugh or show us his pain. We’re not afraid to share either! - Try new things! He’s always down to try anything, even if he’s scared. If it’s something his kids want or my mom wants to try, he’s always down - he’s a hard worker, and takes pride in himself and what he does - stands by his moral beliefs - has integrity and is reliable/trustworthy - Is close and open with his parents, sister and extended family and has nieces and nephews who adore him and he feels the same - financially aware and savvy. He’s not a millionaire. But he knows how to save, plan and make ends meet when money is tight. He and my mom work on their budget every week. They have both been employed my entire life - goofy! He’s so fun and lighthearted - he’s an involved and present parent. He never missed things that are important to us and we were always in father/children activities as a child

My dad hates working out, but loves hiking. He enjoys movies and tv and going to museums. He likes camping and fishing but also enjoys taking his dogs on a walk. He loves to dance and he ADORES my mom. He’s never been disloyal. He has a bowl of ice cream before bed every night because he says life is too short to skip out on things you like.

SweelFor- · 2023-01-04T09:48:46+00:00

Masculinity means the traits that are stereotypically found in men on average in a given culture.

Fun-Dependent-5909 · 2023-01-04T10:35:48+00:00

My definition of someone masculine is someone who’s assertive, has self respect, isn’t afraid to express his emotions, isn’t so fussed about what others think of him, stands up for himself, family, close friends and just an all round respectful person. Hamza and a lot of other people's definition of masculinity is probably just someone who’s rich and goes to the gym.

steppenwolf123 · 2023-01-04T16:22:32+00:00

Judging by the content of influencers like Andrew Tate, Hamza, etc, being masculone means caring and pursuing most superficial things imaginable and making them crux of your personality

avotoastisgreat · 2023-01-05T22:39:50+00:00

I think everyone has masculine and feminine energy. A well-rounded person is balanced between the two. They are yin and yang, you cannot have one without the other. Personally, I view my feminine energy as my inward energy and my masculine energy as my outward energy. For example, self reflection falls within my feminine, and self discipline falls within my masculine.

Several-Passenger320 · 2023-01-06T21:37:07+00:00

Passionate about this topic, I wrote extensively about it in my notebook as I was learning this myself.

In essence, all that is masculine is everything that is still and consciousness. It's the stillness of the forever rooted landscape of energy into your being. Men are often refered as 'the mountain' of the relationship for this reason. (They are reliable, don't fall off track, etc)

While feminine energy is about chaos, the forever changing storm in nature. One attempts to relate to the other like the ying yang.

When a woman is high on emotions, the man's job is usually to not be phased by it and act logically, by doing what's hard and aligning that with what he must do. This is ultimately what separates man from boy, as the latter will give up or complain that something is hard, the former will do it nonetheless, without complaining as he knows it won't help in his purpose that he must take.

A good example of this, would be 'Man in Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl', where's the author, a psychologist and psychiatrist who survived Auschwitz, made the place a case study for what, how and why a man will endure the pain and suffering and make meaning out of it. It was observed by Frankl, and overlapping with Nietzsche's philosophy, that the survivors would be those who had a reason to outlive the camps. 'Those who have a strong why will bear almost anyhow'; Those who saught to publish medical papers, their inventions, seek their kids to protect them, would survive the camp; those who had no good reason to live, or something to go back to, would be the ones that'd be prone to die easier.

There's many other ways this topic can go, such as masculine traits being: challenge, drive, purpose; in mythology, there's countless examples of the man who overcomes a great task, Perseus slays the Medusa, for instance. In real life, the Wright Brothers beat engineers on inventing the first plane, educated scholars lost the race of decoding the Egyptian alphabet to a poor kid who was an hobbyist running on pure enthusiasm and joy. They all had a stronger why than their competition, and that is channeled by as purpose to thrive, something bigger than your identity, which you'd manifest, it tames the chaos of the world and draws it into the man's stillness of being.

In a more relatable library of terms, it can also be seen as: not being swayed by others emotions, knowing how to state strong efficient boundaries, handling his own feelings, managing his vulnerabilities, trust and his word with others.

Habits considered masculine to exercise:

- Solitude (not to be confused with being lonely)

- Martial arts;

- Meditation

- Journaling

- Finding and chasing a purpose in life

- Fulfilling your feminine energy and needs in other activities and energy fiels that aren't a woman (surf, beach, partying, laughing with friends - anything that is moving energy)

- Self-discipline

- Reliance, resilience;

Habits that kill stillness of energy:

- Making a woman your purpose

- Making a woman your sole source of feminine energy;

- Masturbation

-Over-beautifying yourself (Exaggerating on self-care routine)

Books recommended for diving deeper into this:

The Way of Superior Man by David Deida;

The Man in Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl;

Models by Mark Manson

Title	What Does Masculinity Mean?
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Date	January 4, 2023 3:30 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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