Hi everyone! I (23F) already posted here earlier about my trauma that I got from my relationship. My partner was interesed in the red-pill movement, and some of his words made me very anxious about aging, I started to question my self-worth and attractiveness. I would not say that I completely recovered from that, I feel like this rhetoric will be on the back of my mind for a long time, but I am definitely making progress.

I would like to share with you some reflections of mine that helped me. It will be also helpful for me to reiterate that.

  1. You are allowed to like your appearance at any age. You can enjoy make up, beautiful clothes at any age, these things are not reserved for young girls only, but it is not necessary. In fact, you should love your body at any age.

  2. Age has no bearing on how beautiful you are, it is a natural process, but your choices do. Hit the gym, eat well, sleep well, focus on things you can control. You cannot control aging, but you do not have to because everyone ages, and, again, you can look great at absolutely any age.

  3. "The wall" does not exist. If someone refuses to date you because you are over 25, 30 or whatever, well, good riddance. You do not want to date a mysoginist who thinks that women expire at certain age. And you also do not want to be with someone who prioritize youth because it is simply dumb and superficial. If you want a relationship, find a person who shares the same values and loves you for you.

  4. Red-pill dudes like to scare women about a decline in male attention as they age. However, they are exaggerating things to get more views, they ideology lives off of fear-mongering. It is definitely not like there are millions of guys who want to be with you when you are 21, and no one at 26. In fact, no matter how old you are, there are numerous people who you are compatible with. But actually, you do not have to be concerned about any numbers. If a relationship is your goal, you only need 1 partner, and, again, it is very achievable at any age.

  5. You do not lose value with age. Your value grows with wisdom and experiences you gain as you age

  6. Red-pill ideas are just radical internet ideas, they are not facts. If you surround yourself with this content, you might think that everyone agrees with those ideas, but it is simply not true. Those who support that are a minority, but just a very vocal one.

You can add what helped you in the comments. Also, I would like to chat with women with a similar experience to support each other