Seeking support after a red-pill induced trauma

xvszero · 2025-07-30T18:07:41+00:00

Have you ended the relationship?

I'd suggest sticking with therapy. If it feels not for you, maybe switch therapists.

Potential_Finger_181 · 2025-07-30T19:50:55+00:00

Red pill men use tactics that are qualified as abuse. And remedy here is the same as for victims of abusive relationships. See if there are hotlines for people like you in you country, those should be free. And cutting ties with abuser should be the first thing to do. This step alone will bring you releif

StayCool-243 · 2025-07-31T18:18:27+00:00

Sorry to hear it. Unless you leave this person it will be difficult to know if he’s really stopped. Perhaps consider a 3 month break with zero contact so that you can re-assess with a clear head. The details are hardly important. If you’re here, most of us have a good idea of what happened. Good luck.

Jaded-Ride-8572 · 2025-08-01T08:37:56+00:00

I am divorcing my 35 year old husband who has been red pilled. He became increasingly abusive. Abuse always escalates. What has helped me is talking through it with AI and joining some feminist groups really helped to empower me. What you will hopefully come to realise is this all stems from men’s insecurity and feelings of inadequacy. Look around you all women are beautiful and we are all having babies into our 40s now. I had both of my kids in my 30s got pregnant straight away no fertility problems. Women can always get men but a man can’t always get a woman. The insecure men have to tear us down to get access to us. RP speaks to men’s narcissism and entitlement and completely brainwashes them. It’s not your fault. You are so so young and I’m guessing you’re a 10 and he’s not. Think when you are 60 you’d give anything to be 24, when you’re 80 you’d give anything to be 60 again. Life is too precious to be miserable and a relationship like this will make you sick! I know this because it gave me a literal tumour - massive wake up call!! Please leave him and find someone who values you. He’s already done all this damage, apologies are meaningless unless backed by long term action. Have a look into the cycle of abuse - he may just be saying sorry to keep you then revert back to his shitty behaviour. Lundy Bancroft - why does he do that, is a great book which really helped me.

Polish_Girlz · 2025-07-30T22:25:38+00:00

Why do you have issues with aging at 23 yrs old?

According_Sundae_917 · 2025-08-21T14:54:17+00:00

Please just seek a therapist who deals with psychological abuse and coercive control.

Your partner is abusing you psychologically and you cannot accept that. Red Pill arms insecure abusers with ideas and tactics for belittling you.

Forgiving him is part of being manipulated by him. He needs you to question your worth.

You are valuable and worth a non abusive relationship in which your partner respects you as a human being, not manipulates you to be his compliant puppet.

You may not see it now, you may have excuses for him but please please talk all of this through with a domestic abuse therapist who can explain how he will not change and that it amounts to abuse. When you’re older you may have a different perspective and see it clearly but now you’re in it, you’re young and your self esteem has been suffocated by him so of course it’s harder to see - that’s exactly where he wants you!

You deserve better - your worth is never determined by your age or your superficial value to an insecure man. Don’t let him win. Don’t give him another chance to change and grow, no matter how much he apologies - he won’t - so give yourself the chance to grow and be happy.

I know what these guys are like - stay as far as you can from them!

Title	Seeking support after a red-pill induced trauma
Author	snaeya
Upvotes	26
Comments	18
Date	July 30, 2025 6:04 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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