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RiasXgremoryX · 2020-11-03T17:32:05+00:00

Block and delete.

Ignore and Ignore.

"Closure" after a bad relationship is the biggest myth man has invented, Men do not care about what you have to say and they are not going to listen. Instead they are actually hoping you'll come back and "try to talk some sense into them" just so they can gaslight you, manipulate the conversation and twist the situation around on you to make you look like the a$$.

notreallyhere123456 · 2020-11-03T18:48:45+00:00

I also learned that each time you talk to them, you’re are increasing the chances that they will say something awful to you. It took me a year to stop talking to my exbf - they man who completely and entirely broke my heart. And in that year, throughout that co-dependent, dysfunctional, string-along year, he devolved further and further away from the man I loved and thought he was. By the time we stopped talking, he had managed to destroy every good memory and every warm feeling I’ve ever had for him. All I was left with was hurt and a giant heap of anger that, to my horror, I may never sort through entirely. I would rather have just been left with the hurt and some memories.

leadmemories · 2020-11-03T17:55:24+00:00

For a while I thought I wanted closure with a guy I meant nothing to. I know now that if I had ended up seeing him again, I would’ve been strung along for even longer. Closure came in time and always will. Never gonna hesitate to block & delete ever again.

doadollopofdaisy · 2020-11-03T18:14:32+00:00

This definitely goes for friends too. Just had to learn my lesson on this lol.

There was a guy I was really good friends with over quarantine (enjoyed a lot of the same things, real chill and easy convo) but I had to block his number back in July after he was unnecessarily rude to me and wouldn’t apologize. Then on Halloween night, messaged me on tumblr where we started talking and where I forgot to block him saying “happy Halloween🎃I miss you, can we be friends again?”

I immediately said “that doesn’t sound like the apology i deserve.”

But looking back, even though I demanded respect and wasn’t letting him getting away with it, I shouldn’t have even done that with him. He knew I wanted the apology, if he respected me as a person and friend, he would’ve opened with it. I should’ve recognized it and blocked and deleted at that moment. Instead I wasted time trying to give him space to be a decent person. Safe to say, I know better now.

Sweetbug33 · 2020-11-03T17:30:33+00:00

No response is the best response

Pasdepromesses · 2020-11-04T04:39:22+00:00

Block and delete. If you feel like you need closure after that, write an unsent letter. Seriously, this worked wonders for me. You don’t need the other party’s presence to get closure. With NVM or LVM, this is only a risk.

I also sometimes do hypnotherapy and I had one session where I properly said goodbye to my father who passed away last year. I really needed to know if he was okay and there were still things I wanted to tell him. Even though I don’t know if he will hear it, and it was primarily for myself, I have a lot more peace now. I can imagine this is not for everyone, but this can be used for other kinds of closure as well.

Title	🙌🙌🙌
Author	Sweetbug33
Upvotes	507
Comments	10
Date	November 3, 2020 4:57 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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