As a highly educated 5'8, 33 year old woman I admit it's been hard to get out of the scarcity mindset. I would prefer someone with an education, no kids, good job, close to my age, and AT LEAST 5'9 in height (Preferably taller). But because subconsciously I've always felt that these standards were too high I've given chances to men who don't tick all the boxes. The hilarious thing is that these dudes end up disappointing me anyway! So I figured I might as well maintain my standards. And this mindset has reaped such rewards! During my peak pickmeisha days (literally 4 weeks ago, lol) there was one guy I matched with who seemed OK, he was 41 had 2 kids, was educated, 5'9 and had a good job. I figured hey 3/5 ain't so bad right? Well he barely made any effort to get to know me and was boring to boot. Instead of trying to contort my brain to rationalize his poor communication like I previously would have done I unmatched and blocked. The very next day I matched with a 6'2 handsome, educated, childfree man who was nice and communicated just enough to not feel love bomb-y. There isnt any mirroring going on and I feel I can make a rational assessment regarding our compatibility. This isnt to say he's "The One" just that he could be. So ladies never settle, the man who ticks ALL the boxes does exist but you wont find him if you settle for just "OK".