If you tell a man you have a boundary, but they cross it and no consequences are given, you have essentially communicated that your boundaries are aren't worth worrying about. You have essential told a man that he is welcome to treat you like shit.

LVM are always looking for opportunities to test your boundaries because they want to know how little effort they can put forth to keep you. Remembering your boundaries and actually restraining themselves from crossing those lines requires way too much effort for the average LVM. They're not interested in being on their best behavior constantly, they want to stay their sloppy ass selves and reap gf/wifey benefits for it.

So remember:

• Tell men what your boundaries are and what will happen if the violate them.
• If someone crosses that boundary, enforce it. Dole out the consequences ruthlessly. Don't listen to their excuses and whining, don't backtrack. Let them know you mean business and that you don't fuck around with your health, wellness, and livelihood.