So I have been single for a while and I guess I just need a safe place to vent...

I've recently started putting myself out there and dating is hard. I want a relationship, someone of integrity, but it seems all I'm finding is losers who want one thing and when they realize I'm not for that, they ghost me. What is with grown men saying things like "not looking for anything serious?" as code for "I want you to give me relationship benefits with zero commitment."

The only person I've even remotely liked ended up being a polygamist which isn't at all for me.

It feels like a lost cause. I'm successful, independent, and at least semi-attractive. I don't know what else it takes to just find one decent person to settle down with.

Where are these men at?