I always knew this was something men did but now that my sisters ex husband has done it, I can’t help but feel sickened.

She divorced him last year because after almost 5 years of absolute hell, she finally had enough of his bullshit. The useless dog had too many issues and it was getting too much to handle. Obsession with his appearance was one thing, he spent half their wedding savings on veneers and a ticket to turkey (this was during covid too so he had to pay over £1000 for a quarantine hotel when he returned home). When my mother blew up on him, he literally burst into tears, sat on our living room floor and sobbed about how insecure he was about his teeth. My sister was so blind to his manipulation, she went through with the wedding when we were all telling her it would be disastrous. He knew we all hated him and did what most LV men do and wedged a distant between my sister and her family.

The man had a job making 50k a year (which is very good in the UK) but got made redundant because he kept showing up late and missing meetings. Smoked weed (illegal) cigarettes (gross) and was a raging alcoholic (refused to go to rehab) but because he was charismatic, had rich parents and was probably the most attractive guy in our town, my sister kept making excuses for him. Telling everyone he had anxiety, telling everyone he was great husband but had shortcomings because he was just a human being. Taking him back when he ‘accidentally’ cheated on her with an intern. Sorry but I do judge her for that and I’m tired of pretending I don’t.

He took so much from her and dragged her through hell, she’d drive hours and hours to pick him up from a friends house after a party when he told her he was off at a business trip in France, he forced her to stay off the gym just because he was insecure that she was in better shape than him, claiming it was triggering because he broke his shoulder at the gym. Seriously mate? Come up with a better lie than that. Even told her watching porn was good for healthy relationship and said they should watch it together (which too me is disgusting) but my sister listen to him because she wanted to wait on his every whim and need and consequently gained 40kg from emotional eating and stress.

When she finally got to the end of her ropes, waking up one day and realising that the twat sleeping beside her was a good for nothing, LV, spineless coward who deserved to die alone and goes through this dramatic and very expensive divorce... you know what he does 6 months later whilst she’s still recover from the trauma he inflicted on her and her bank account? The asshole comes back to town with a brand new women he’s just married, who doesn’t speak English, doesn’t know anything about the country, is very timid, very religious and barley 20 years old. Just.. Wow.

My sister isn’t even the same person anymore. She used to be the type of women who knew who she was and what she wanted to do in life. I wanted to be just like her when I was a kid, thought she was coolest person ever. Now, I don’t know, she’s different. She doesn’t even look like herself at 115kg. She trips over her words, has anxiety, can’t leave the house, won’t meet new people, won’t see a therapist, spends most of her time crying. I keep telling she’s so young (she’s 26, he’s 32) and has so much to look forward to but he changed her and I hate him so much for it.

And now he’s back, traipsing around with this new bride that keeps staring around the cereal selection aisle with these blue eyes, huge with wonder and I just feel so angry and disturbed. I don’t understand how some men can just drag a women through hell for four years, ruin her life and then move on like nothing had happened. How they can tell everyone their going on a summer vacay to get over their oh so difficult divorce and then come home with a brand new foreign wife. He was at the pub a few weeks ago and was talking (very loudly) about how the girls in the west are spoiled and manly, that if they wanted a REAL wife, they needed to go to overseas and find one there. Where they’d be submissive, polite and ready to please. Submissive is a word he kept using. I had to leave.

I’m honestly scared for this young girl and what she’s in for, LV men can be so dangerous and this is still so shocking. My sister was devastated when she heard he did this. She’s moving out of town soon to stay with our aunt whose she’s very close with. I think this is what she needs and it’ll be good for her, as for him.. well.