In my experience, it doesn’t matter what kind of man you’re dating, they all try to dominance test you. I only attempt to date HVM, but of course this is the standard for LVM as well. I’ve had so many men ask me this question after a few dates (take into consideration that they have never had any sort of sexual interaction with me, this is all about personality): “I can’t tell whether you’re dominant or submissive. What are you?”

My response is always: “What do you think?” as I stare at them (a slight smirk on my face). And I have had this same response over and over: “Oh, you’re dominant.” This is always followed by complete and utter submission to anything I ask them to do. The question was almost always asked after they tried and FAILED to: 1. Make me laugh/react however they thought I would to something they said, 2. Make me do something that they asked me to do (something stupid like try on a new outfit or dance), or 3. Tried to make a move on me. It’s honestly like these men are just puppies I am crate training.

Have you had any instances where the guys just flat out ask you if you’re the leader/dominant person in the relationship? It can’t just be me. I feel like these scrubs are dominance testing me to see if I will bend to their will. When I don’t, they want me to be their queen, which I deny. I don’t want to be queen to a bunch of losers. Only strong queendoms prevail 👑

Edit: True relationships are about partnerships. This is about that, and figuring out how to defeat the male ego while having that partnership. If we can.