Ugh where do I even begin? I just want to take a moment to genuinely cherish the existence of this sub. I’ve reached a level of self esteem and self love I never believed was attainable for me.

I was that “not like other girls” woman. Full blown pick-me. I used to look at this sub and believe it was ridiculous. The idea of having standards was unfathomable. I felt that y’all were too harsh, not realistic.

I was in a place of utter despair questioning my womanhood by dating advice rooted in misogyny; “be more beautiful, act more feminine”. But now I realize that the focus is to only level myself up for ME. Such a simple concept but truly so difficult for to fully grasp and accept.

This community has absolutely opened my eyes!! I can no longer look away from the pervading themes of misogyny and just utter disgust that goes on through society that is harmful toward women. I’m not settling for mediocre relationships for the sake of not being single. Im not dealing with problematic male friends or letting comments or actions slide. I’m empowered and I seek so earnestly to remain on this path. I spend so much time on this sub in the mornings to fuel my days and at night to unwind.

So I’m just glad this is a place. I’ve learned to love myself and manage money. I’m absolutely thriving in graduate school! And I have FDS to thank for that.