Hi ladies,

So, this dumbass wanted to dump me because I said that pornography is abusive towards women, sexist and borderline cheating on your partner. He said my words hurt him. I, codependent as shit, told him to have a middle ground: profesional pornography is ok but no looking at amateur sites as r/gonewild because it feels too real. He said he didn’t fully understand my concerns but that he accepted.

Each time I told him that I was bothered by something in the relationship like the sarcastic comments or not calling for days, he would say “Look, I already stopped looking at nudes and I stopped hanging out with my friend - the one who wanted to hook up with him while being in a relationship with me- You are never happy, nothing that I do is enough for you. It seems like I’m a terrible partner to you”

He was also friends with his exs, as in chatting with them every single day. Then he would also talk every 2 days with girls he used to hook up with. Every time I told him that this bothered me he would call me insecure and controlling. He sweared that he would never hurt me and that cheating was the worst.

He broke up with me one month ago because “he felt he was not good for anyone and that he was better off alone”. He said he was still in love with me. Last weekend he broke things off for good, saying he would never come back with me again because I was very pushy.

I still suspected that something was wrong there. If you love someone that much and they love you back, you would want to work things out, right? I had his Wifi password and remembered he told me he used that one for all his accounts. Well, I’m not very proud of this but I logged into his Instagram account.

And then I saw it. He was flirting with other girls while being with me. He would tell them how cute he found them, that he wanted pictures of them, that their voices were very sweet and that it would be nice if they meet. He would tell them that he wanted a fuckbuddy and was going to search for one. I was devastated when I read those messages. I spent the whole day crying. At the same time, I was at peace with myself: I was not crazy, something was going on and I had the right to be mad at his shady behavior.

I’m not even going to confront him, don’t want to give him more of my energies nor time. The best revenge is that he will be miserable for the rest of his life because that’s how he is. And from today, I’m glowing.

This forum has helped me to learn that I deserve the best, as all of you. Thanks❤️