“He’s just not into you”

Men do not have the power.

Why are we looking for men to initiate? Because that proves to us they are worthy of our time.

Not because he’s got the power to decide where we are going and all we can do is wait and pray.

Why is he not initiating? Not because he is looking for magic woman full of integrity, empathy and beauty. And you couldn’t fit whatever the next woman has that you must be lacking.

Someone who ghosts you, starts getting mean, distant etc. is showing their cards. The cards they are choosing to hold onto and play in EVERY game. You were a game to this man and you had cards he knew he couldn’t play against.

They think long term. They see the odds are against them on this one. Thus they move on. And enter a new game and sniff their cards. Sometimes another game is more exciting. Just the right opponent. Sometimes you want to play a game you don’t know the outcome of.

Play the game badly and give up the prize. Win for him, loss for you. (In their mind)

That’s it.

“He’s just not into you” is a lie. It takes a man to stop playing games and hold himself to better standards to even see you as “wife material”. For LVM it’s any woman closeby once they choose to give themselves the “green light”.

You’re not star-crossed lovers, the power is not in his hands to initiate a relationship. It takes two to tango, it takes two to be attracted, it takes organic mutual time and bonding.

Don’t be fooled thinking you’re not enough. LVM are brought up to see everything and everyone as a game. This behaviour should turn you off to the MAXIMUM. They will do this to your children.

An HVM will not have wasted substantial time on playing these games. He is intelligent and will not see any substance in these power moves.

Look for authenticity and honesty. Vulnerability. It’s a strength not a weakness. They are incredibly hard to find. In the meantime you can develop these traits yourself. HVM are looking for HVW too, do not be fooled!!!

(And obviously if there is no HVM in sight you stay SINGLE and FAR AWAY from EXPERIENCED game PLAYERS)