How do you get satisfied?

missamourcali · 2020-04-03T05:15:46+00:00

I mean this with all due respect, but I think you should read the handbook like the bot message says. All of your questions will be answered. Seriously.

For the record, FDS is about changing your life, not just for funsies and nowsies while we’re under lockdown, but then go back to what you were doing before lockdown.

I’ve been on this planet for a few decades, and one thing I know in my bones to be true is that if you want different outcomes from what you had before (re: men or life in general) you have to do different things, have a different mindset, talk to different people, read new and different books, and just be on some leveling up ish.

And for what it’s worth, along as you are alive, you are never a lost cause. I read this quotation on a website once that said, “every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around”.

missamourcali · 2020-04-03T05:18:15+00:00

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RedLeverage · 2020-04-03T12:03:52+00:00

Casual sex is very risky for women and isn’t satisfying for the vast majority of women.

If you insist on wanting to have casual sex to “satisfy yourself” (you mentioned wanting one night stands), this community is not for you.

FDS women don’t find pleasure in having casual sex. We find pleasure in improving ourselves and finding high value men.

featherflowers · 2020-04-03T19:03:48+00:00

Hey OP. I'm also fairly new here and was wondering similar things. Toys are fun but sometimes you wanna scratch that itch.

I used to think that ONS were fine. But when I really thought about it after reading the handbook, they're really not worth the risk vs the small reward. I too was down for casual sex. It made me feel empowered and like a cool girl. But even if I was satisfied physically (often not the case despite me knowing exactly what I want) what's the point? You're going to spend time finding another one and another one. If you're really looking to find a HVM for LTR, why waste your time with causal sex? That's energy and effort you could put towards finding the one.

I've decided once this isolation is done and we're free to go out and about again I'm sticking with one FWB. We both know we don't want a relationship with each other (he's a good bit younger, not looking to settle down yet) but there is chemistry and the sex is good. If you want to have sex so that you're not having it with the guys you're vetting, an appropriate FWB is the way to go. But from what you said in the post you would try to move FWB to relationship. That's exactly the opposite of what their purpose in your life is! Part of vetting a FWB should be you feeling that you definitely do not want a relationship with that person. Once you've slept with a man the dynamic has shifted and if upgraded that relationship will likely never be what we are seeking.

Make sure you've read through the entire discussion on the posts in handbook about FWB. There are more details that I think will be pertinent to you. Also I would suggest using this time alone to explore why causal sex is something you want over a loving and exclusive sexual relationship? I'm not trying to put you down just saying it's something to think about. Some people use causal sex as a form of self harm. Although FWB is not ideal either, it's safer and less work for you than finding randoms every time you want sex. I would suggest figuring out what boundaries would be useful to prevent you getting too attached to a FWB. Only seeing them once a month, not doing couples things together, no sleepovers, etc.

Feel free to message me if you wanna talk more.

fenyx202 · 2020-04-03T23:47:20+00:00

Satisfyer Pro 2

Title	How do you get satisfied?
Author	missamourcali
Upvotes	12
Comments	31
Date	April 3, 2020 2:27 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ftzwar/how_do_you_get_satisfied/
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