How to stop being a pickmeisha?

savagecarebear2 · 2020-05-04T21:55:40+00:00

I would highly recommend reading The Purity Myth by Jessica Valenti. This idea that contact with a Penis somehow fundamentally changes you as a woman is one of the biggest cons ever effectuated on womankind. Your value as a human being has nothing to do with the number of people you have or haven’t slept with.

valsavana · 2020-05-04T23:53:33+00:00

There's an article titled "I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’t" you might find interesting. The woman talks about how she built part of her identity around her promise to stay a virgin until marriage so after she married and had sex, she no longer felt "special" and struggled a lot.

Kindly_Strain · 2020-05-04T21:47:54+00:00

Has physical contact with a man fundamentally changed who you are? Are you less valuable to yourself?

Saitschik · 2020-05-04T22:48:53+00:00

Virginity is a patriarchal myth. A dick and/or sex don't change your worth in any way, believe me. Men don't define your value neither does sex, even though male primates want to make you believe this to control you.

And don't "safe yourself for marriage"! Many men are horrible in the sack, you should at least have slept with a few to compare before you tie yourself to one.

_boring_daven_ · 2020-05-05T09:03:24+00:00

Honestly. The fact that you can lie about your virginity and men can’t tell the difference means that it doesn’t matter. Virginity only means as much as we make of it. Other than your hymen breaking (which can happen without sex) you’re biologically unchanged.

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