Key difference between LVM & HVM

Shinygoldendragonfly · 2021-02-18T15:30:41+00:00

From what I've learned, LVM who pretend to be HVM will do all of the above.

The distinction to identify here would be:- The LVM keeps making the SAME mistake everytime, doesn't matter if he apologises every single time. The HVM makes same mistake at max once or twice out of routine, but catches himself, sits himself down, tries to systemically get his shit together because he genuinely cares. It's not about correcting himself so that you shut up for a week. A HVM is much more genuine and (keyword here- will ,not willing) will put in 100% effort.

Ladies, Intentions mean absolutely nothing, if the actions don't follow up. Don't listen to their words, see their actions and habits.

donttextme_k · 2021-02-18T16:53:15+00:00

One of my guy friends told me this: if he ever says “but you also do x y and z” when you bring up something he did wrong. RUN

missgirl649 · 2021-02-18T18:08:58+00:00

And it doesn't matter if he considers what he did to be not that bad or not a big deal. It matters how it affected you. Don't ever accept the bs blame-shifting lines of "you're too sensitive", "it wasn't that bad", "it was just a joke", "my friend/ex/family doesn't mind when I do it", "it was only once", "I didn't know!" (after several times of asking him to stop). Another blame-shifting move to be weary of is when you heavily imply, or say in a slightly joking tone that you don't like something and want him to stop, and after him continuously doing it and bringing it to his attention, he hits you with "well TECHNICALLY you didn't SAY not to do that!" If you say its bothering you and want him to stop, it doesn't matter how often you say it or how you word it- he should respect it.

warinmymind94 · 2021-02-19T06:28:13+00:00

This is so important and true, LVM are NEVER accountable and rarely(if ever) give a genuine apology. lvm will always be turning the table so its back on you, making excuses for their behavior, or changing the subject.

In the past, I made the mistake of living with an lv-ex while I started working and only took one or two college classes at a time. Anyways, he had used the bathroom and later on when I went into use it there was a large poop smear all over the toliet bowl. GROSS. I called him in and he made a hissy fit at first because I interrupted his video game. Smh. I told him thats disgusting you clean up your mess, and use the bleach gel too.

He then tried lying saying it wasn't from him. I said yeah it is, you were last in the bathroom. Then he tried lying saying he didn't see it. Lol. I told him you need your eyes checked. Then he tried telling me guys don't clean their bathrooms, you just aim at it until it washes away after a while. I told him that is bs and beyond unsanitary and why you arguing just clean it up already.

I stood here as he scrubbed it and I made him do the whole toliet. He was about halfway done and tried to quit. I had to yell at him more no you clean up the whole mess, do it right.

The LVM always try to argue, lie, get mad, throw a fit, complain, and half ass. OR the lvms will then make it into a pity party about themselves.

Title	Key difference between LVM & HVM
Author	caitlin_yes
Upvotes	167
Comments	8
Date	February 18, 2021 2:59 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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