Marrying first boyfriend

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-09-18T03:10:40+00:00

You're a child. Don't pick someone now! I can't stress that enough. Do not pick someone now. You also didn't say enough about him to justify him being your one pick for life.

Annia_Cornificia · 2020-09-18T05:32:15+00:00

In ten years, you won't even recognize the person you are now. Trust me.

If you can feel yourself becoming dependent on him, I think you know what you need to do.

2020-09-18T06:00:53+00:00

I used to feel this exact same way at 19. I looked back after my first relationship and missed him so much for like 10 years. I had so much regret about ending things. When I was finally ready to get married he was already married to someone else. Fast forward to joining this group, I realize I was in an abusive relationship and I was always right to end things. So basically what I’m trying to say is it will be hard but you probably have some gut feeling deep down (even if he is HV) and you know he isn’t right for you.

2020-09-18T03:12:07+00:00

Read the wiki and handbook

burpleseaurchin · 2020-09-18T22:44:22+00:00

You don't even know what his career is going to look like, how he maintains a household, etc. It's a big question mark right now. There are definitely deal breakers for you right? If he were unemployed or never did any of the housework? Do NOT marry before you can figure those things out at MINIMUM!!!

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2020-09-18T12:56:20+00:00

You need to read the handbook.

hexchromosome · 2020-09-18T22:05:16+00:00

Trust that creeping feeling that says you don't have the life experience yet to make a lifelong commitment.

I know we like to say that once you're 18 you're an adult, but your brain doesn't stop maturing until you're around 25. That's six more years. Think of the difference between yourself now and six years ago at THIRTEEN years old.

The truth is, your twenties will be full of drastic personality changes. It's your first real foray into the world, and it'll shape you. Don't worry about losing this boyfriend, and don't worry about finding a new one. Focus on learning about yourself and discovering and developing your passions

Competitive_Rabbit88 · 2020-09-19T00:34:09+00:00

I married my first boyfriend and then divorced him in less than three years. He was still a child and so was I but I took up the responsibilities and in turn, raised him.

Don’t do it sis. These early marriages only hurt you.

nycgirlhere · 2020-09-18T03:57:04+00:00

I think you should evaluate why you want to experiment. I think if he's a good guy without HUGE character flaws, then maybe you might be the one who just isn't feeling strongly about him and that's okay bc you're young. I would ask you to put yourself in your bf's shoes, if you were him how would you want him to treat you/act? In the end, I don't think it's wrong or right as long as you communicate and are respectful. I think for me I only date with the intention of serious long term commitment in mind ie marriage otherwise this happens and you find a good guy but you can't do anything real about it for another couple of years.

Title	Marrying first boyfriend
Author	bigbuffbabyboss
Upvotes	17
Comments	9
Date	September 17, 2020 11:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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