So the first few comments I made I was told to ‘read the FDS handbook.’ It took time but it honestly keeps everyone on the same page. I love how newer and younger and older Queens are joining, I just want to encourage that in order for us to give good feedback, you gotta take the first steps to leveling up. What I’ve seen that shows lack of Handbook:

-I’ve dated this person for 3 yrs and he’s telling me I’m fat- simple- dump, block, delete

-I don’t think I’m ... pretty, smart, sexy, cool, enough for.... (you need to be in the start of a self love journey before you can make a decision girl)

-my boyfriend is looking at pictures, following girls, won’t pause his game- (if this has been going on for a while, you don’t need our permission to yeet him aside? Haha)

-I was going through something and slipped up and we had sex (okay girl, you do you) and then we didn’t use a condom, and he made me watch porn, and I made him breakfast, and now I feel ashamed because I have feelings for him. (Girl, you gotta stop abusing yourself by letting men do that- choose you for you)

-lastly, let’s love and support each other. Sometimes it’s hard to love and give advice to people who aren’t ready to receive it. I hope this helps ❤️