I am 18 years old. I found this sub reddit because others on another sub were talking shit about it. Now, I got into the whole ‘feminism’ thing when I was like 14. At that time liberal feminism was cool, so I just went along and supported it. But I always felt something was off. I never really liked porn but because it’s so normalized I thought I was the weird one for being uncomfortable with it. I also tried to watch to myself. But even then, I could NEVER watch straight porn. It turned me off. Eventually, I found things like radical feminism and this subreddit, and everything finally clicked as to why I was so uncomfortable with what the mainstream/ liberal feminism was trying to normalize. I finally felt like I was home.

But I’m upset with what I’m seeing. I’m upset with seeing girls all around me, even a few of my friends, being pick mes. Saying porn and sex work is empowering. Saying BDSM is cool. Not seeing the dangers of sending nudes. And I see the boys around me being casually sexist and openly saying they watch porn. I still remember that when I was in grade 7 (mind you we were 12-13!!) one girl told me how she overheard some guys in the grade got together at one guys house and they all watched a bunch of porn together. I felt sick. And I still do. Some of those guys still go to school with me and I can’t look at them the same. I can’t feel attracted to any of them. They’ve been watching degrading porn since they were at least 12, and still do it. They share porn memes on Instagram. These are the boys of the next generation. Porn addicted, and sexist. God forbid they hold the door open for a girl, they don’t wanna be a “simp”. No issues sending girls nudes around after promising them they wouldn’t. They have no empathy. And I feel like so many are joining things like the red pill. And the girls of the next generation aren’t any better, as too many are agreeing with liberal feminism. They’re just learning to tolerate the boys behaviour.

I am scared to see what these boys will be like in a few years. I don’t plan on dating at all until after 22/ being done with my bachelors degree, as I want to focus solely on education, clubs/ internships, and of course my amazing girl friends. But when I do start dating, what will the men in my age range be like? These men were once porn addicted teen boys. What about now? They probably will have just gotten worse.

I don’t know where I’m going with this. I guess I just feel very disappointed with my generation. I feel hopeless in ever dating. Just wanted to rant a bit I guess. Anyone else feel the same as me?