I’ve spent the majority of my 20s working abroad and it’s been difficult to date. Cultural differences, contract timelines, etc.. So, now that I’m approaching my 30s I’ve been wondering if I should move back to the USA and put myself in a better situation to date.

Im a very active person with many goals. For example, I practice jiu jitsu and take dance lessons (salsa, bachata, samba). I’ve recently just started surfing!

The other day I thought about which future makes me more excited about the future? In the next 5 years, what makes my heart beat a little faster? 1. To have my black belt in jiu jitsu 2. To have a child

It was #1... without a doubt! This realization made me feel better about staying abroad and continuing MY dreams. I sometimes even question if children are right for me, so why am I willing to put my dreams on a back burner to have them? The future of literally leveling up my jiu jitsu, dancing through the nights, a languages... THIS is what makes me feel good.

Of course I could do both! But I find myself putting too a lot of energy into dating.. for what reason? If children aren’t a goal, I can take my damn time with dating! Haha

Not to criticize those who want children soon, I still struggle with this. Just a reminder to remember to check in with what you want!! Not what society is telling us we should want :)